u/ChrlieKingofRats

I mean, I know there are options .. but do they work? I’m 21 weeks pregnant, my husband and I have a toddler who is just the most amazing kid, and we bought our first house together in September. I thought things were good. In fact they were so good that things felt.. off.
I found evidence on my husband’s phone last night of him texting and messaging people on an app meant for hookups. Likely that he has hooked up with people, if not he intended to. There’s more than I saw, but I couldn’t bring myself to look too closely and I heard him coming up the stairs so I had to put his phone back on the charger so he wouldn’t know.

But .. I don’t want a divorce. But I also can’t pretend I didn’t see that. I haven’t confronted him yet and idk if I will soon. But I just .. I don’t see another way to not put myself and unborn baby in danger than by leaving before he gets an STI or just idk leaves us anyways. That sounds flippant but I’ve been up all night unable to sleep, it’s 6am now. I’m so embarrassed and lost.

Found texts and messages on a hookup app on my husband’s phone tonight. Most recent messages were asking someone to meet up at a place in town while he was supposedly working.. I saw on his Life360 that he was indeed at the location mentioned at that time. I assumed he had just stopped for fuel and food.

I have felt something was off lately because things have honestly been so good.. it felt too good and I guess it wasn’t just me being paranoid like I thought. I only checked his phone because I had been feeling like something was off lately.
We have a toddler who adores him and I’m 20 weeks pregnant. I can’t just up and leave but I don’t think it’s fair to our children to stay.. and I don’t want my toddler’s family to implode.

I’m laying in bed, next to him because I tried to sleep on the couch but it was so uncomfortable (and I’m pregnant and not a cheater so why should I have to sleep on the couch?) but haven’t been able to sleep at all. Too embarrassed to tell my family or friends. He noticed I was upset and kept asking if I was okay but I couldn’t tell him. I think I need to confront him tomorrow or it’s going to kill me inside.

All I want to do is reach out for him, take up the offer of cuddling that he made before he fell asleep. But I feel so stupid for wanting that. I feel so stupid for all of this. We just bought a house together in September, we’re building a life together. I don’t know what I want to get out of posting this I just don’t know what else to do.