u/ChronicRedditor1

Hello. I am a 19 year old. I know this may seem a bit silly but I am feeling very scared. I have heard about the Hantavirus thing going around here in South Africa. Recently I have been having flu-like symptoms (sore throat, mucus and running nose). Today the throat thing got slightly more painful. I don't think I have had fever or anything but now my throat is feeling itchy and I am starting to cough alot. I have been hearing about this virus and I feel scared. There is a slight tightness in my chest. The sore throat has been around for 5 days I think but it was very very slight and then started hurting more 2 days ago. Is this normal flu or could it be Hantavirus? I don't think I have come into contact with any rodents as far as I know. I have been around alot of children though and my father also has a sore throat. My chest has started hurting as well.

Hello everyone!👋 Since I was a little child I have always struggled with being quiet, shy and nervous around new people. It isn't all new people. Usually it is someone older or a group of new people. It is very difficult for me to hold a conversation with them consistently for a sustained amount of time. I can usually communicate pretty easily to and befriend people who are my age one-to-one if they seem open, kind and receptive. I suppose that whenever I messed up when I was little and got scolded by older people it somewhat made me even more scared and nervous so now whenever I am supposed to approach and meet a new group of people or am required to communicate with someone older for a sustained period of time (especially in a casual or friendly manner) I self-monitor alot and often end up messing up, saying the wrong or inappropriate thing, overthinking and staying too quiet etc. Another thing I have noticed is that I have a habit of missing certain social cues. I am really struggling with this. In some cases I feel too nervous to ask something or can't decide if something is appropriate to ask and in others I just can't come up with anything to say or ask. This has caused me some difficulty when entering a new environment since I think alot of people end up perceiving me as overly quiet or someone rude, overly passive and socially incompetent and untrustworthy which makes it even worse and I noticed that I end up becoming an outsider. What can I do to fix this? Especially at my workplace? Any help or advice would be much appreciated.

Hello redditors! I wanted to ask for some help with typing myself. I am stuck on ennegrams 6, 9 and 4 although there may be a possibility of me being some other type. I think that if I can figure out my enneagram then perhaps that would help explain and help me solve most of my psychological problems. Also, please excuse some things here that may not be related to enneagram and may just be general things that anyone can experience, I wasn't sure what to include and what not to. If there are any questions that could help me figure this out for myself please let me know.

I have recently noticed that I am someone that asks for advice very very often. I literally go on long sprees on reddit where I constantly ask for other people's perspectives, guidance, reassurance and advice on my problems in order to get support from others (who may be more knowledgeable than me), also I don't know why, but I like finding people online that know more than me about something and can offer me guidance and knowledge that I can't find myself. I have a habit of constantly looking for guidance from others on what I should do in troubling situations and struggle to trust myself. I know this makes me sound 6-ish but I have heard E6 is a head type and that makes it feel to me like they are mostly smart in the way they think (not that people that are not head types aren't smart, it's just that alot of what I read about E6 makes them sound like very intelligent people that constantly fact-check and usually know what they are talking about. I am not sure if I am that thorough).

I tend to doubt myself very very easily. I have a habit of comparing myself to others as well. I am scared of being inadequate compared to others that are in a similar situation to me (for example I have recently been doing an internship and there is someone else on the internship with me at the same place, I am not sure on how I should conduct myself and I have been messing up so much due to being new at this but the other person is actually alot more capable than me already and much more liked and I can't help but compare myself to this person and feel inadequate, envious and resentful. This can be so intense that alot of times I just want to give up.This is only one situation of course but I have observed this tendency within myself in many situations in the past as well but I am not sure if that is relevant to enneagram).

Something embarrassing that I do very often whenever I am unsure or scared of something is that I often ask for help, advice and guidance from anyone that makes me feel the least bit safe with them even if I do not know the person well, once I build rapport with someone I can open up very easily about my worries and troubles and seek guidance and support from them (I am not sure if this is relevant to enneagram either😭). I tend to get nervous and doubt myself very very easily. It is difficult for me not to internalise other people's opinions of me. Other than this, I am quite a chill, happy and peace-loving person generally and prefer to just relax. I am also quite passive and struggle to take initiative. I like lazing around most of the time. I also tend to use fantasy as escapism but my fantasies are usually wish-fulfillment style fantasies, not very dark or depressing. I also have this thing with belonging. I really really like being included and wanted but am sensitive to rejection and feeling like I don't belong somewhere.

Thank you!

Hello redditors! I need help with regards to my social skills. They're really bad. Like really really bad. I don't know how I should greet people in certain situation, miss alot of social cues, am very quiet and awkward, I oftentimes make situations weird, seem incapable or stupid due to not replying appropriately, keep quiet when I am supposed to say something due to overthinking, reply back very uncertainly or nervously, overthink so much that I usually miss the chance to reply, get self-conscious etc. The strange thing is that I am not like this with everyone. There are certain people, especially girls my age that I can approach and befriend very easily one-on-one, it is just that when I meet a new group of people, someone older than me or strangers that I get really really nervous. I can't hold a conversation with someone older than me or a group of new people for shit. I've actually cried after alot of situations because of this. I think that I come across very quiet, insecure and incompetent. Usually whenever I enter a new environment I tend to become the outsider and end up feeling like I don't belong in group settings because I end up excluded due to not being able to socialise and get closer to the larger group of people. The biggest hassle now is that I am trying to get some experience for a job so now I am being exposed to so many new people that I have to interact with regularly and unfortunately I am afraid that they might already think I am weird and dislike me🙁.

Aptitude Test Results

You like work that involves: following procedures and regulations to organize information or data, typically in a business setting.

You like to work with: information, data, regulations, office settings, procedures, files, or rules.

Hello redditors. I am in need of some perspective, ideas and advice. I am currently studying something and I am in my first year but I don't think it is the right thing for me after gaining some practical experience in this field. I partook in a free aptitude test recently to maybe see if there are alternate paths I can take.

I was rated highest for humanitarian and innovator (although the innovator part I am not so sure about. I am not what you would call a very rational and logical person. I can obviously be in some cases but I wouldn't claim these two descriptions as personality traits.)

Innovator

Likes to solve complex, rational problems. Uses analytical skills to come up with innovative ways to improve logical systems.

Pragmatist

Wants to ensure accuracy and efficiency. Enjoys working within established, logical systems to accomplish practical, real-world goals.

Humanitarian

Driven to make the world a better place. Creative and imaginative in coming up with insightful solutions to meaningful problems.

Caretaker

Wants to be of service to others. Prefers to work within established institutions to find ways to maintain stability and security.

For the second part, I was rated highest for creating, helping and organising.

Building

Building jobs involve the use of tools, machines, or physical skill. Builders like working with their hands and bodies, working with plants and animals, and working outdoors.

Thinking

Thinking jobs involve theory, research, and intellectual inquiry. Thinkers like working with ideas and concepts, and enjoy science, technology, and academia.

Creating

Creating jobs involve art, design, language, and self-expression. Creators like working in unstructured environments and producing something unique.

Helping

Helping jobs involve assisting, teaching, coaching, and serving other people. Helpers like working in cooperative environments to improve the lives of others.

Persuading

Persuading jobs involve leading, motivating, and influencing others. Persuaders like working in positions of power to make decisions and carry out projects.

Organizing

Organizing jobs involve managing data, information, and processes. Organizers like to work in structured environments to complete tasks with precision and accuracy.

I wanted to know what are some jobs that align with or suit these inclinations and strengths? I am really lost and would greatly appreciate some help. Just to add some insight into the kind of person I am, I am quite a passive person generally. I suppose I can be seen as quiet and stand-offish compared to most people I meet, I prefer to be on the sidelines but I like being helpful, useful and included. I would say that I usually try to do my best at whatever job I am given. I usually struggle to take initiative and this has caused me some great grievance in some past experiences. I understand people that say that you should just study and get a job that pays the bills but I have recently discovered that there are some jobs that certain people, like myself, are just not suited for and we can't just force ourselves to keep going when we feel tired, demotivated and miserable. I feel like my results may make me seem like a creative artist type. I'm really not. I value stability and want to find a job that allows me to make a decent (even if not alot) amount of money. Enough to live independently and afford my needs. I really value stability and not being overworked all the time. I like reading, writing, keeping files or documents in order, preparing materials or resources, drawing (albeit I am not very good. In another life I would want to be a book illustrator) and helping others. I am actually not very good at handling stress and pressure. I don't need to find a job that perfectly suits my personality but rather one that I could maybe get good at and tolerate (maybe even like) with practice. Thank you to anyone that has read this far and I apologise if this post is a bit silly or odd🙏.

Hello redditors. I am in need of some perspective, ideas and advice. I am currently studying something and I am in my first year but I don't think it is the right thing for me after gaining some practical experience in this field. I partook in a free aptitude test recently to maybe see if there are alternate paths I could take.

I was rated highest for humanitarian and innovator (although the innovator part I am not so sure about. I am not what you would call a very rational and logical person. I can obviously be in some cases but I wouldn't claim these two descriptions as personality traits.)

Innovator

Likes to solve complex, rational problems. Uses analytical skills to come up with innovative ways to improve logical systems.

Pragmatist

Wants to ensure accuracy and efficiency. Enjoys working within established, logical systems to accomplish practical, real-world goals.

Humanitarian

Driven to make the world a better place. Creative and imaginative in coming up with insightful solutions to meaningful problems.

Caretaker

Wants to be of service to others. Prefers to work within established institutions to find ways to maintain stability and security.

For the second part, I was rated highest for creating, helping and organising.

Building

Building jobs involve the use of tools, machines, or physical skill. Builders like working with their hands and bodies, working with plants and animals, and working outdoors.

Thinking

Thinking jobs involve theory, research, and intellectual inquiry. Thinkers like working with ideas and concepts, and enjoy science, technology, and academia.

Creating

Creating jobs involve art, design, language, and self-expression. Creators like working in unstructured environments and producing something unique.

Helping

Helping jobs involve assisting, teaching, coaching, and serving other people. Helpers like working in cooperative environments to improve the lives of others.

Persuading

Persuading jobs involve leading, motivating, and influencing others. Persuaders like working in positions of power to make decisions and carry out projects.

Organizing

Organizing jobs involve managing data, information, and processes. Organizers like to work in structured environments to complete tasks with precision and accuracy.

I wanted to know what are some jobs that align with or suit these inclinations and strengths? I am really lost and would greatly appreciate some help. Just to add some insight into the kind of person I am, I am quite a passive person generally. I suppose I can be seen as quiet and stand-offish compared to most people I meet, I prefer to be on the sidelines but I like being helpful, useful and included. I would say that I usually try to do my best at whatever job I am given. I usually struggle to take initiative and this has caused me some great grievance in some past experiences. I understand people that say that you should just study and get a job that pays the bills but I have recently discovered that there are some jobs that certain people, like myself, are just not suited for and we can't just force ourselves to keep going when we feel tired, demotivated and miserable. I feel like my results may make me seem like a creative artist type. I'm really not. I value stability and want to find a job that allows me to make a decent (even if not alot) amount of money. Enough to live independently and afford my needs. I really value stability and not being overworked all the time. I like reading, writing, keeping files or documents in order, preparing materials or resources, drawing (albeit I am not very good. In another life I would want to be a book illustrator) and helping others. I am actually not very good at handling stress and pressure. I don't need to find a job that perfectly suits my personality but rather one that I could maybe get good at and tolerate (maybe even like) with practice. Thank you to anyone that has read this far and I apologise if this post is a bit silly or odd🙏.

(Please help!) Hello redditors! I would really appreciate some help! I wanted to enquire about this field. I have been thinking about pivoting into a Bcom for Human Resources Management from next year. I am in my first year of another degree but I don't think that I am well-suited for the job. What is HR like? Are there job opportunities available? What kind of person would be suitable for this career? Any advice or help would be much appreciated🙏❤️.