u/CitronGold984

I have an older cat and a younger cat. The older cat has always kind of pinned the younger cat down and nipped at her. Never seriously drawn blood or done damage as far as I can tell. Now she's obviously not that scared cause she comes at him, smacks him, and nips at him. But then he comes over the top rope, chases her down, pins her, and bites at her, seemingly hard enough to cause distress (she screams and yells), but not hard enough to cause harm. The older cat makes no noise, just silently beats her ass. They usually break it up and separate, and then they're fine for a day or three. Should I worry? I introduced them slowly over a year or so, and the fights don't seem to be escalating. Actually decreasing in frequency. They are about the same weight but one is male (old) one is female (young). Both are fixed, have all shots, and no health issues.

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I often experience deep emotional and personal emptiness. I call it the void. I look inward and there's nothing there most of the time. I do feel things sometimes, but I often have trouble remember what that feeling was like later. Like recently I got into taking care of my yard after years of neglect. I remember I enjoyed the feeling of being outside, the smell of fresh cut grass, I had my tunes in and felt satisfaction after. But now I'm like...I don't want to do that anymore. Except I know if I did it I would enjoy it. But I cant' like, remember what the feeling was like, just the sensations. If that makes sense. I don't know if it's self sabotage, depression, or if it's just that I can't remember the feeling very well and so it doesn't feel like it was "real" to me. I pretty much can't remember any feelings. If I try to summon a time when I felt a feeling, there's nothing there. Is this consistent with anyone's experiences of alexithymia or with the diagnosis more generally? I'm just learning about it, so maybe I'm in the wrong place.