r/CatTraining

My two cats have been coexisting for about 2 years now, but they still don't seem to get along that well.
The younger one sometimes tries to groom the older one, but the older one gets annoyed and reacts badly. Their main interactions usually happen when one of them gets the zoomies, and they end up bumping into each other, which then turns into a fight. 😭
The most progress they've made is being able to lie beside each other, but even then, one of them will eventually get annoyed, and things go downhill from there. Huhu.
Has anyone successfully reintroduced cats who already coexist but aren't really comfortable with each other? Did starting the introduction process over help them become more friendly toward one another?
I'd love to hear your experiences and any tips you might have!!!

(Apologize for the repost, my original post translated to German when I tried to edit it :/ and I didn’t want to have to retype it on the post itself)

Hi all!! I’ve been following this sub for awhile and thought I’d get some help.

I have two female cats, Princess (13, calico) and Betty (6, black), both fixed. Princess loves being held and cuddled, while Betty isn’t a huge fan of it.

Betty is a very skittish cat, but she’s gotten much better in the last year, especially since my sister has started feeding her, she’s become far less scared of the kids being around her.

She isn't really afraid of being picked up or the movements involved (being held close to the body, the actual act of lifting her, squishing/pressure on her torso, etc.), and she loves to cuddle and be petted. Most nights, she even sleeps next to me or on the little tiered platform I have for them so they can stay close. As you can see in some of the photos, she’s used to some of my antics, like having her chin lifted for pictures. (In both photos where my hand is at their necks, I’m just lifting their chin! I’m not pressing them, and they’re completely fine with it.) I don’t know if it will be relevant, but we suspect she has a flea allergy. She gets really bad sores, but she never reacts when I touch them, she is even happy when I rub over those areas, so I don’t think that’s an issue, but thought it could be brought up anyway.

Does anyone have suggestions on how to make holding her less scary or more pleasant? I’d like to be able to hold her at least long enough to carry her around the house.

I hope I’ve picked the right tag and that the attached cat photos are okay! I felt compelled to include a few.

My cat of 8 Sears old has a new kitten friend who is now 6 months old. They went through the whole introduction programm and he has accepted the kitten fully. They can play very nice and funny, run after eachother and go into the tunnel and all. But sometimes the older cat can get frustated quick.

In this video you see that the kitten wants to lick the older cat. At first its ok but the kitten stops, and the older cat waits until the kitten looks away and the older cat bites her in the neck.

In the other videos u see weird meowing behaviour and then biting or grabbing the kitten.
And then u see also a video of the older cat grabbing her and biting under her nek and not letting go.

He often bites her in the neck while playing. In the beginning it was alot, but it is way less now. But i feel the older cat is grumpy to him sometimes.

They can sleep next to eachother and on the same bed and all, but sometimes this happens and i find it weird.

Is it normal behaviour?

Just set this up and immediately destroyed. Trying something new after a month long break