Saying someone is meant to be fat is a jerk move
I’m so tired and frustrated. For some background I have always struggled with my weight and for most of my life I’ve been very to pretty skinny but in high school I had an accident that left me semi disabled. Since then I haven’t been able to move like I used to and it’s caused me serious weight gain and loss. I’m currently classified as overweight and my doctor is concerned about my cholesterol. So ofc I’m trying to lose some weight. I mentioned it to my friend as an offhand comment when we were thrifting cause I got a shirt that at my current weight is to small. My friend then proceeded to say” you shouldn’t try and lose weight because I always regain it”(we have known each other for only 3years). She then proceeded to say “your body probably wants to be at this weight .” I know that it was supposed to be a kind comment but it pisses me off. I just want to lose some weight, and I just want to move again. Walking/running is extremely painful for me and it’s made me extremely sedentary. I hate it. I hate not being able to move, and I hate not fitting into my clothes. I don’t think it’s wrong for me to want to lose a healthy amount of weight. And I certainly don’t think it’s ok to tell someone that they are destined to be overweight. Especially when they don’t know or understand my health past. It’s also insulting because this same person constantly compliments my boyfriend’s weight loss(he’s been eating like me which caused him to lose weight) . Like I want to lose weight is a bad thing but my boyfriend’s weight loss is so amazing. It’s just bad vibes. Also another perspective thing is the fact of my daily good routine is I eat 1 meal a day and occasionally snacks at around 1200 calories a day. Aka I’m already at a low calorie intake and tbh I can’t safely go much lower with my calories. That’s how sedentary my life has become that 1200 calories a day is a maintenance calorie for me at overweight (I’m not severely overweight but still classified as overweight). Also if anyone has any good tips on low impact exercise I’d love more ideas because right now I’m just using my parents pool for cardio.