u/Closet_Cookie

I played some Rainbow six siege with two friends and they asked me if Grim was my type. I told them, "I don't know. It doesn't really work for me that way." Or something like that and then told them about me being demisexual.

I explained it as needing an emotional connection for sexual attraction. They said, "isn't that just normal," with the example of them not wanting ti have a one-night-stand. I told them the difference is that I don't feel sexual attraction before I have an emotional connection. And they said, "But you goon, no?" And then laughed at me. I tried to explain that it doesn't work that way and that for example an asexual person still has sex, but they weren't listening anymore at that point.

Is there a way to avoid things like this by explaining it better? Because I don't think it will be the last time I'll have to explain it to them or others.

Edit: I meant allosexual in the title not cis, sorry.

I'm still very early in my journey, but HRT is something I would like to try (of course after getting some psychological assessments and stuff). The gender center I'm going too right now already made me go to an informational appointment in fertility preservation. I never really thought about what it might cost, so I was quite shocked at the initial payments and the annual fees. Also idk why, but freezing that stuff doesn't really seem affirming.

So I just wanted to ask what y'alls approach was and if you have children what way you went through.

Hope this isn't too personal.