Why do I hate the way other women view sex?
I consider myself a feminist, I've done the readings, listen to the lectures, I just never felt the connection on this one topic.
I really like sex, which appears to be unusual as a women, I liked it to the point I wanted to do porn, but knew I couldn't handle the vitriol and bullying that brings.
But that goes back to my question, It seems it is majority women who hate sex. It is mostly women bullying other women for dressing for the male gaze when they don't dress modest, shaming onlyfans girls for not only posting the bad things that happen to them, mostly women calling each other sluts and whores. To me it seems like that's letting patriarchy win, letting patriarchy convince them sex is a "man thing" only men benefit from. So many critics of hookup culture, of the "male gaze"(a film term mind you) and "choice feminism" that aren't about actually criticizing the ways women uphold patriarchy, but being mad at a women whose sexual?
Why do so many women seem to think sex = degrading. Like if a man makes a sexual comment I don't automatically feel degraded or lesser than, regardless of the man's intentions, cause I don't see sexual acts done to me as something I'm losing or a loss.
Am I being too dogmatic in my thinking? Is there something I'm missing in my analysis? Cause to me it seems women are laying over and dying when it comes to this "sex" issue