AITAH for yelling at my partner?
Hello,
It is my first time posting here.
Me (26F) and my partner(26M) had a fight a few nights ago. We both live alone in separate apartments. I have severe depression and was medicated for a while, but my doctor stopped the medication. For a while I was ok, but now I have a severe episode again. (It started a few months ago)
In the past few months I could barely function, my home is a disaster and I rarely go out. A few nights ago, my partner came by and after a while started to point out the mess in my apartment. I told him I am well aware of this, but I can barely work (I work from home), and cleaning the house looks like an impossible task now.
He kept on telling me that if I was really bothered by it I could do it, since I have enough energy to play video games. I told him to drop it, but he kept on going. I got very angry and started to cry and yelled at him that maybe he should help me if my the state of my apartment displeases him so much. From there I just kept on yelling and crying because nobody is ever helping me with anything, even if I ask for help. I told him that the only one who ever helped me is one of my friends (28M), but I am too ashamed to ask him to help me clear my house.
My partner told me that his life isn’t easy either, since he works a lot. (More than 12 hours a day and even in weekends). That I expect too much from him and that even with his full schedule he still has time and energy to take care of his apartment.
I told him to leave me alone and to go to his clean apartment then. I cried all night after he left, which made my mental health even worse.
I told my sister about it and she told me that I was too harsh on him and should have not yelled at him. So, AITAH for yelling at him?
P.S. My partner knows about my depression.