How can I throw a fit without looking like I’m throwing a fit?
This partner I had was dumb as a box of rocks, actually, I think the rocks are smarter because they had a purpose. (Less dramatic edits)
He couldn’t do anything without being directed, even after 6 months to learn my habits and being the only one he worked with.
I had a count down to the shift bid when it was announced because I wouldn’t have to work with him anymore. He asked to buddy bid and I said I couldn’t cuz it would mess with the shift I needed.
First month or so together I told him three times a call was an emergent return. I’m in a flow state that was interrupted by getting a moment to breathe and noticing we’re stopped at an empty intersection. (I had a patient with an allergic reaction with airway involvement, I had told my partner we’re going back lights and sirens three times before getting in the truck because I had an intern, he acknowledge me and said he understood. I get a moment and notice we’re stopped at a red light and empty intersection and ask if we’re going code 3, he says, oh my bad, I didn’t realize that’s what you wanted, after the call I ask about it and he just apologizes, I move on.)
A few months later with a GI bleed out both ends I’m prepping and checking the suction and there’s a mask on the airway I’m trying to work with. Sitting there with his thumbs up his butt or something while fire and I work with the EKG leads still not placed after I threw them at him and told him to do it. (We have an emergent GI bleed going on, while I’m managing the airway and monitor, I say hey, put the leads on, and place the cables over the shoulder for him to grab, he acknowledges me and does nothing.)
Our last shift together he took a cardiac arrest to the wrong ER. Fire told me to handle it or they would. His excuse was they got seen faster with us jogging from one ER to the next… I texted him I moved the truck to the other ER and he still brought the gurney to the wrong ER. (He took a cardiac arrest to the trauma er entrance when the main ER entrance is across the hospital, when I asked him about this he deflected blame instead of just saying he made an honest mistake.)
He was so dumb I refused to downgrade calls, I’d just throw an IV in and go oops, my call. He upgraded to advance tho so I can’t do that anymore. (On calls that could go either BLS or ALS, I would just do ALS rather than downgrade calls to him.)
He drove horribly, I was constantly covered in bruises from his driving, no amount of yelling easy fixed it. (On a perfectly flat and even road with a crunchy wrist fracture that I gave max dose of fent to, he finds every bump and my patient was screaming in pain.)
He couldn’t draw zofran for me for fucks sake, no matter how many times I tried to help him. I’ve shown many an EMT how, the super awesome ones could be talked through it if they didn’t know and I was busy.
I tried to guide him gently and sternly. I just can’t do it again. He needed to be directed to do any and everything. The mental load of dealing with him was exhausting. It’s not a me problem because I’m great with new EMTs. (I tried to help him in every way I knew how, and nothing worked. I just wanted to set him up for success and only found stress.)
TLDR: they put an idiot back on my shift and I can’t do it again. Help.