Was i really wrong in saying my friend used her father's death as an excuse for her mistakes?
These 3 days have been such a hell for me I can't even explain, So I have a friend let's name her X and other Y ,so X been in the same college as mine and we are in a hostel we have been friends since the 1st day we moved to this clg, in the first sem everything felt like a dream had 1more best friend & it felt like it would be same till the end...
But like everyone we had our Lil fights and misunderstandings ( not always Lil tho) but the thing was we always tried to sort it out and communicate except for X she never ever admites her mistakes whatsoever and lies multiple times .whenever I and my friend tried to confront her, she would say thats how she is, and she's always been this difficult because she has been through really bad times because of her father death
Now the thing is this went on for a really really long time, and she was difficult to handle day by day, everything depended on her mood if she was happy every one would be if she wasn't she would do things to make others feel bad, ( she's toxic ig) we had a joint insta id where we would post all our pics nd reels ( very pvt too ) we had taken a room together in 2nd yr and would post eachother funny pics some of them when we were sleeping, were in bra and shorts etc, it was clear that things like that would only be between us 3 but it wasn't she would show my pics to her guy friends and seniors even after me repeatedly saying no, she would talk about how my boobs shape and other such pvt. Things . I tried talking to her calmly sometimes with anger the answer i would get would be - if I take photos i would show them to the world otherwise I won't take any photos and I'll be off from the id , I tried explaining her that I have no problem with her taking pic but withe her showing to others and told her not to be extremely black and white, the answer get would be - my life is black and white that's how I am, she is a gaslight final boss, doesn't like when others do better than her and would do anything to get attention
I tried to distance myself from her, i never wanted to take room with her in 2nd year but Y really wanted to, i tried explaining her it would only ruin my friendship but had taken due to FOMO and also because she was a nice roommate of not a friend
3 days back I was talking to X, X & Y had a Lil argument on something and X was telling me about it I told her she should be more careful about it, and she was agreeing...I then told her that again had shown my pic to another girl ( she had stopped doing that so it was a bit of a improvement) she became a Lil hyper and said it was by mistake and she was showing something else
Now I very calmly said that it has happened a lot of time, she changed the topic and said she has too read a lot of things from our chat me & Y and I had written this exact line ( X apne papa ka rr karti hai ) now I know I should have never used those words and it was really wrong of me to do that but I was factually correct
I tried explaining her i didn't meant to disrespect her father in anyway and I used the wrong words but she used her father as an excuse
Now again not a really good combination of words but the thing is am tired of her explaining this with patience and calm she was already shouting at me which made me not think twice before saying this
Later that night I removed X from insta id changed the password and everything, when she got to know she made me remove all her pics...and Y was furious at me for doing that claiming it was our id for 3 of us ( i didn't really had a choice I can't keep my photos with her , although I do agree i should have removed myself and my pics...)
Everyone is throwing shit at me for what I said to her , and I did say sorry for my choice of words but not for what I said
I feel really depressed with what happened and how everyone feels am a pathetic person, but never ready to know how much I tried talking to her sorting things out
So please let me know if I was really wrong here with what I did and what should I do next because am really clueless and don't know who to talk about this without judgement