u/Comfortable-Draft441

Hey guys,

It’s been 4 months of no contact after a 3-year relationship, and I am suddenly struggling hard.

They broke up with me, and while I took it pretty badly at the beginning, I thought I was finally starting to get better. Now, out of nowhere, I’m crying all over again.

It’s so frustrating because it makes me feel like I’ve made absolutely zero progress. I am proud of myself for sticking to no contact, and I’m definitely not going to reach out, but damn the urge is so strong.

I keep trying to tell myself that they've moved on and are happier now just to help myself accept it. But I had a moment of weakness and checked their socials. This could just be me being delusional but it seems like they are struggling too.

I ended up asking my friends what they thought and they also think my ex is spiraling right now.

It makes things so much more confusing. If they're hurting and spiraling, why won't they just reach out?

Idk, I guess I'm just venting. I just need some kind, comforting words right now. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. I really thought this person was the one fr:/

Before this, I was the person who didn’t even believe in love. I never wanted the house, the kids, or the marriage until I met her. We were together for 3 years, hiding it the whole time from our homophobic parents.

The breakup was confusing and honestly a complete switch. Till this day im not really sure what happened. When she broke up with me I didn't just feel "sad." I felt like I was dying.

I’m talking full-blown panic attacks and not being able to eat. I almost took myself to the ER because I genuinely thought my body was failing. I ended up having to tell my toxic mom everything just because I couldn’t keep up the "I’m fine" act anymore. She didn’t know I even liked girls let alone a relationship

It was messy as hell.

I used to think people were being dramatic when they talked about heartbreak, but I get it now. This shit is no joke. It’s physical, it’s exhausting, and it feels permanent.

But I’m 4 months into no contact now, and I can finally breathe.

She’s still on my mind, but the pain isn't trying to kill me anymore. If you’re currently in the trenches and it feels like the walls are closing in, I promise you aren't "dramatic" and you aren't going crazy. It just takes a long time for the air to come back.

Hang in there. I never thought I’d see the day where I felt okay, but here I am.

Before this, I was the person who didn’t even believe in love. I never wanted the house, the kids, or the marriage until I met her. We were together for 3 years, hiding it the whole time from our homophobic parents.

The breakup was confusing and honestly a complete switch. Till this day im not really sure what happened. When she broke up with me I didn't just feel "sad." I felt like I was dying.

I’m talking full-blown panic attacks and not being able to eat. I almost took myself to the ER because I genuinely thought my body was failing. I ended up having to tell my toxic mom everything just because I couldn’t keep up the "I’m fine" act anymore. She didn’t know I even liked girls let alone a relationship

It was messy as hell.

I used to think people were being dramatic when they talked about heartbreak, but I get it now. This shit is no joke. It’s physical, it’s exhausting, and it feels permanent.

But I’m 4 months into no contact now, and I can finally breathe.

She’s still on my mind, but the pain isn't trying to kill me anymore. If you’re currently in the trenches and it feels like the walls are closing in, I promise you aren't "dramatic" and you aren't going crazy. It just takes a long time for the air to come back.

Hang in there. I never thought I’d see the day where I felt okay, but here I am.