u/Comfortable-Table-57

Our generation seems to do stupid actions that are deemed as "cool" and "attractive" to meet the social hierarchies. For example, intentionally forgetting information you studied, not bothering to perform academically (I some but not all subjects and degrees are obselete).

Anti social behaviour in gangs, spitting, binge drinking is seen as "attractive" in the dating market. Like wtf???

As we can see, our generation of friendgroups are mainly too collectivist. Which means that interests, hobbies, opinions, career goals and aspirations, etc, are almost completely the same. Not to mention PPE (same political, economic, sociological) views.

I find it quite weak and unhealthy. Me though, while I am in durable acquaintance circles, I care about my own personal goals and choices and interests as long as they are productive.

It looks like now it is considered "cool" to be a hivemind.

Hello.
I am deciding career options as a Year 12 student. My desired careers are durable and nicely paid, but competition is a risk.

I intially thought of being a human rights news reporter covering social issues. But as a back up, I also may want to be a social worker, particularly with children's services, as it feels nice to visit and support young people, obviously carefully to ensure ethics are followed and they are not revictimized. Social work would be similar to the initial main job as both obviously cover social issues and welfare.

I am currently studying A-Levels of Politics and Sociology. Not studying Law.

Not sure if these are relevant to do social work though. It is too late to change as I will have another year - already had one extra year due to insufficient GCSEs.

Teen rebellions are natural. But it is still seen as deviant in many cultures today. In countries where honour is more paramount than children, teenagers are expected to respect everything the parents say and not to show any emotion. In places like Bangladesh, India, Pakistan, Middle East, teens may result in lethal sanctions if they were caught rebelling or show any other moody attitudes, this is why teenagers in these regions are nice.

In the UK before the counter culture revolution, teens had this as well. And in places where locals are minority, immigrant second generations respect their parents, otherwise again, honour killings may happen, even if moody behaviour is natural.

So in these cultures, how do teens still manage to hold their naturally aggressive attitudes?

Figures show that Swindon has the highest absolute number of Goan immigrants and second + third gens residing, followed closely by Wembley and Harrow in West London. It is the largest home, especially in inner areas like Broadgreen, County Ground, Eastcott and New Town.

I wonder how Swindon is the most attractive destination for that community.

I say this as a Briton with Bangladeshi ancestry.

Places like the UK are very multicultural, so multicultural, perhaps we might become like another UAE or Qatar by the 2070s. Whilst the concept is good in theory, in practice, we need integration, therefore, materialistic multiculturalism is better to be retained than non-materialistic.

Materialistic does make a place look interesting sometimes: the food is good, I would love to eat Biryani, Pilau, Roast as well as Shawarma, Kofte, Kabsa, etc. If this didn't happen, I would not encounter these dishes. Also, the colours of dresses are nice such as the dupattas, sarees, turbans, etc. The music is nice. These can be kept. But even these clothings, I think it is best to wear them in public more on a dedicated heritage day or month, so we have integration in fashion and style.

On the other hand, non-materialistic often triggers cohesion problems and refusals to assimilate. For example, a normal White British young woman wears shorts on a hot sunny day, but then some British Asian (especially a Bangladeshi Sylheti) would scold them for what they wear. Also not to mention the death stares they will give. This is not racism as I also experience this myself. I currently live in a Swindon suburb that is still predominantly White with a 17% Asian population, but I worry if in the future, the Asian population grows and I will get more judgemental stares. Also, due to no assimilation, the rude behaviour happens by these communities. Again, experience.

Furthermore, too much collectivism of a community would unnecessarily define one singular one, for example, me as a British of Asian ancestry has more in common with British fashion and style, but if my neighbourhood gets Asian majority, they will define me, which is wrong imo. Usmaan Hussain in BBC's Last Whites of the East End also had the same feelings of this.

Thirdly, there are cases of so called Honour Killings done by immigrant communities of South Asians, Middle Easterners, North Africans and Gypsy and Irish Travellers. We have dozens of such deaths, 3000 honour attacks with the police or child services being called to one every 3 hours. These do NOT align with the norms of modern Western society.

In conclusion, materialistic aspects are better. If you think I am racist, gosh, do research on these social issues. Also, even some immigrants pose the same concerns, not to mention Usmaan Hussain's experience.

Maybe it would not be an issue if the UK's constitution was codified adding the conventional values, but since it isn't, this is otherwise.

Of course, the pandemic was a massive issue which is unfortunately politicized heavily. Other than that, it was normal.

There was not much division, there was integration, low rates and prevalence of ethnic/cultural segregation (e.g. one area being British Asian Salafi Muslim, the other being White British Christian Nationalist), individualism was common in state society.

Things sadly changed after that. Division is worsening, assimilation stops, more redundant politicization of things that shouldn't be, generalizations, communities defining an individual person due to demographics - all of these make a serious impact on social life, friendships and even the dating market.

Redundant conflicts between authoritarian corrupt nations are happening.

Culture and gender wars are now almost half of the internet.

It is bloody terrible.

And centrists who rebel against these and use ethical aspects to fix things are just seen as "sitting on the fence".

Personally, I would not be surprised if a centrist ends up becoming violent (ranging from rage, shouting to potentially terrorism (not justifying terrorism but it is a risk factor)) because they feel like an anomie.

Edit: Idk why I asked like this. I meant: What will the results be like in Swindon the 7th May?

I know, Politics. This is one off. I wil never do that on this sub again. Forgive me mods.

Considering how increasingly polarised the UK has gotten, it will be polarised too in Swindon. I can feel it when I commute in town, seeing the people, I can tell who they will vote for. Not to mention investigating and privately interviewing the protestors and rallies outside of Meca in March.

Places that are predominantly white are likely to be Reform voters (middle and outer areas like Park North, Pinehurst, Penhill, Nythe), Chiseldon and Wroughton voting Restore UK, while inner areas which are white minority (e.g. Broadgreen, New Town) will vote Green

What do you think and feel?

A 43 year old man from Bangladesh came to the UK in 2009 or 2010 and was a BNP supporter. Came to find out that he is now a Reform UK candidate for Ilford South.

Considering the fact that he is from Dhaka, it is not really a surprise. While the rest of Bamgladesh is a tribal Arabic copycat, parts of Dhaka are Western wannabes.