My spouse is always on his phone
We have a one year old son, and I want to start by saying my spouse is very patient, kind, and reliable… I love him and appreciate him so much. He’s a great father when he is present but I feel like he’s always been glued to his phone. Like even before we had our son he was always on his phone, and I find since we’ve had him he is on his phone even more. The first thing he does as soon as he wakes up is play games or just doom scrolls on social media, and then at night because I asked he will spend some quality time with our son but I think he’s tired after work and just wants to decompress but it just feels like he always wants to decompress more than spending quality time together. To the point he’ll spend some “quality” time with his son for about five minutes and as soon as he gets bored he’ll just be back on his phone scrolling. It feels like sometimes I’m living with a zombie. I’ve tried mentioning it to him and I suggested he could have set time to decompress and I can give him space and then after we have some quality time but it just always ends up where the phone / screen time always bleeds into quality time. Even when we visit my mom and my family people make comments about how much it must bother me when he’s on his phone so much, so it’s not just me who notices. It feels like an unhealthy escapism? He’ll spend hours just in this static type state doom scrolling. We don’t have any hobbies together, I try to get him out to go hiking or do things and he will and seems to enjoy them. I don’t know. It makes me so sad because even often he won’t be present with our son and I feel like these are the best days and he’s just checked out for half of it. I guess I’m just looking for any thoughts or suggestions either what I can do differently or if anyone’s experienced something similar and how to navigate it.