I (26F) live with my dad and grandparents. I know a lot of you will tell me to move out at my old age as a solution but it won't be possible. Me having a fully remote job for 3 years allowed me to pantauin my grandparents at home, while my dad works. I have offline meetings as well dan kadang WFC sama temen, tinggalin mereka di rumah sendiri sebenernya aman, tapi lumayan flexible kalo grandparents ada perlu bantuan.
The thing is, hubungan ku dengan keluargaku not the best either. we're mostly civil but they're definitely not my safe space (both grandparents and dad). Grandparents, at their old age masih rada authoritarian karena keduanya dulu ada jabatan sebelum pensi. Yang bikin aku sumpek adalah mereka orangnya tuh sangat negatif, selalu ada yang dicomplain, ocehan yang ga masuk akal. 80% of the time aku bisa bersikap stoic, iyain aja tanpa berdebat tapi kadang kalo aku lagi PMS, akan aku debatin argumen mereka yang ga masuk akal itu pake logika.
Mungkin kesannya aku kurang ajar, debatin lansia berumur 80+ tapi I will definitely not be their punching bag for their negative emotions. Bayangin, nenek demam lemes seharian ga bisa gerak masih bisa ngomel dan teriakin aku karena aku kekeh mau anter dia ke dokter:) Ayahku juga ga bisa tegas dengan mereka karena tua, dia ga tega. Jadi setiap nenek ngomel, ayahku dengan lapang dada enable her. Siklusnya gini mulu. As much as I want to ngomel balik, mungkin sebaiknya aku detach mereka secara emosional? That way, their negativity would not affect me that much.
Just here to rant, advice would be ok, or if anyone wants to share their stories would be ok as well.