u/ComfortableRoyal18

Not sure if this is the right subreddit. Having a HUGE crisis about thinking of having to work for the rest of my life. Sure, we need money to survive and whatnot, but is this really all there is to life? Just work our butts off and what do we get? Since I live with my parents, I am a frugal spender. A part of my salary goes to Stockbit and my profits from 2024-2025? Gone. I have accepted the fact that I might never be able to buy myself something proper here in Jakarta, a proper house / a proper car (I have calculated even if my salary doubled, bayar cicilannya masih engap). And how long will it take for an employee to double in salary? Yes, years. By then, everything will be much more expensive because of inflation that the increase in salary will feel insulting.

As for now, my current plan is to find a side job to increase my income/find remote work and get paid in a foreign currency. Still in progress but idk, the future for younger generation now seems bleak. My mood these past few months have been a mess. The majority of my friends do not want kids except those coming from money, friends have given up on owning property and have saved up to rent instead, a lot of friends are delaying marriage, etc. Any advice from suhu subreddit ini?

Disclaimer: My outlook on life is not that great now, so please refrain from calling me lazy / insulting Gen Zs in general.

Update: Thank you so much guys for your comments and tips, I appreciate it. Reading your comments helped me a lot last night, kemaren was such a crap day overthinking my future and the job market. Will make sure to come back to this thread whenever this crisis appears again.

Its my first time trying to get remote work through an AI training company so I am unsure how the process is supposed to be like. I have not received any tasks / job description yet but have to agree to the terms and conditions of vendor agreements prior to knowing what the job description would be. I am a bit hesitant to move forward, so if anyone can share their experiences, it would be great! Thank you

1.5 year relationship here dengan cowo pertama yang membuat aku (24F) feel safe dan memberi aku ketenangan. Dia cowo yang tipe social butterfly banget, temen dia ada dimana2 + lagi bangun beberapa bisnis baru, jadi a big part of his life goes to networking. Aku kebalikannya banget, introvert dengan teman yang bisa dihitung jari. In this type of situation, people will tell me to focus on myself and hobbies. Aku ada full time job, semua cabor aku embat: squash, lari, padel, pilates, yoga jadi aku cukup ada kesibukan lah ya. Tapi tetep aja, aku merasa ketergantugan banget dan kecintaan banget sama pacarku.

What can I do differently, girls?

I (26F) live with my dad and grandparents. I know a lot of you will tell me to move out at my old age as a solution but it won't be possible. Me having a fully remote job for 3 years allowed me to pantauin my grandparents at home, while my dad works. I have offline meetings as well dan kadang WFC sama temen, tinggalin mereka di rumah sendiri sebenernya aman, tapi lumayan flexible kalo grandparents ada perlu bantuan.

The thing is, hubungan ku dengan keluargaku not the best either. we're mostly civil but they're definitely not my safe space (both grandparents and dad). Grandparents, at their old age masih rada authoritarian karena keduanya dulu ada jabatan sebelum pensi. Yang bikin aku sumpek adalah mereka orangnya tuh sangat negatif, selalu ada yang dicomplain, ocehan yang ga masuk akal. 80% of the time aku bisa bersikap stoic, iyain aja tanpa berdebat tapi kadang kalo aku lagi PMS, akan aku debatin argumen mereka yang ga masuk akal itu pake logika.

Mungkin kesannya aku kurang ajar, debatin lansia berumur 80+ tapi I will definitely not be their punching bag for their negative emotions. Bayangin, nenek demam lemes seharian ga bisa gerak masih bisa ngomel dan teriakin aku karena aku kekeh mau anter dia ke dokter:) Ayahku juga ga bisa tegas dengan mereka karena tua, dia ga tega. Jadi setiap nenek ngomel, ayahku dengan lapang dada enable her. Siklusnya gini mulu. As much as I want to ngomel balik, mungkin sebaiknya aku detach mereka secara emosional? That way, their negativity would not affect me that much.

Just here to rant, advice would be ok, or if anyone wants to share their stories would be ok as well.