u/ComfortableStudio450

The above question is related to my spouse.Whenever we go out on trips with my parents or there was my cousins wedding or any family get together involving my relative or friends, my husband will get triggered by any silly thing.

Mostly it involves around my kids behaviour.For example

It was my cousins wedding and I had to attend few rituals, so my husband was handling my 4 year old.She was running and throwing tantrums.Instead of handling the kid , my husband started giving me looks and later lecturing me and getting mad at me.Later he was sitting in the corner with a sad face, as if God knows what I did and barely talked throughout the wedding.

Even when we go on trips something similar happens,

He was kind of speeding up and while overtaking suddenly a truck came in front we all got scared.We all said slow down, this made him loose his temper and he replied I will get down from the car you drive and later throughout the trip he barely talked , stayed aloof.

He finds excuses to pin point at everything.Sometimes i hate taking him anywhere cos I know he is going to ruin my mood or get triggered at any silly thing.being with him is like walking on eggshells.I have to be careful around him.

At one instance during a friends meet, we were playing cards game, I just for fun said you are bluffing and teased him etc he got frustrated.He lost his mood and left the game.

I wonder a 40 year old behaving like this , what it is?

Is he still a kid an adult body?

It's really overwhelming for me , i avoid taking him to any of my family meets because he spoils my mood because of his tantrums.

I need tips on how to handle this, divorce is not an option.

How to use law of attraction so that people in the family treat us well ?

We are a family of 5 but since childhood we were treated in a demeaning way.

My grandma used to spread wrong narratives about my parents and us. We stayed in a small house with shared bathroom but rest of the relatives were always rich.we were the poorest but we 3 kids worked hard and bought 2 houses.now when we are getting rich they all are jealous but still find way to demean us indirectly.

How to handle this using loa , cutting ties is not the solution.

We family of 5( parents and 3 kids)are always considered the black sheep in every social group.Be it my mother's side or my father's side.We are ignored and not valued.

When it comes to visit no one cares or gives a damn but they would expect us to visit their homes and get mad if we dont.

Since childhood, among the gifts the last ones were given to us,basically the leftovers.(Be it sarees or any other gifts)

Even during weddings we are expected to help the bride groom family but when it comes to our weddings, they would create drama or get angry when they are not valued.

My father being the elder one is never respected ..my grandma spreads all the wrong narratives about him and hides all the false doings of the other 2 brothers and sisters.

We have grown from rags to riches..we used to stay in a small house with shared bathroom.

Now we own 2 houses , we kids worked hard and built it.so now entire family is jealous and kind of they always wanted us to stay poor forever.

So why this treatment to us only inspite of being nice and kind ?

How to overcome this , cutting ties is not the solution here, any other advice would be welcomed.