feeling stupid.
backstory: my spouse and i were dual military until i recently ETS’d. i was in 8 years, him 12, dual 7. when my ETS date came up, we decided i would get out and SAHM until our youngest was in school (she’s 4), and go back to school in the meantime. when HIS ETS date approached, he reenlisted for Ft. Campbell (we were at Carson) with a position that would give us stabilization for several years. (he is in a specialized unit that doesn’t have orders from HRC).
Okay- to now:
we moved from Carson to Campbell, which i am thrilled with because my family (my 92 yo meemaw :’) ) and both of our families are 3-5 hours away from us, much better than the 21 hour car ride from CO. We bought our DREAM HOUSE, my older daughter loves her new school (7yo), I’m starting school, things are like…good.
A couple of days ago, my spouse came to me and told me that he’s going to take a position…at JBLM. My spouse (SSG) LOVES the army, and thrives in the army, too. He’s very much a “Yes Man” (sir lol) so when they asked him “would you be ok with this?” He said yes. (Not sure what the convo would have been if he said no or pushed back).
I. Am. Gutted. Everything was falling into place. We haven’t been here a year and we’re already pre-planning to move in the spring AGAIN after I thought this was going to be stable for several years. Selling our dream house. Pulling my children out of school.
I know. I KNOW. I was in the army long enough to know they like to screw you over when you least expect it. And I knew we eventually would likely PCS, just not a year later when this position was supposed to give us years of stability. And yeah, could we rent the house out instead of selling it? Maybe. But without someone paying exponentially high rent, I don’t know if i could swing paying this mortgage + whatever we get in JBLM, and what if it gets absolutely destroyed by renters? Idk. My mind is absolutely all over the place and I’m sad.
TL;DR moving across the country and I’m pissy about it.