HR asked me if I planned on having more kids during my yearly review..
I am currently 38 weeks pregnant and have an 18 month old. For both of my maternity leaves, I have been offered 10 weeks paid (8 weeks at full pay, 2 weeks at 80%). I am very thankful they have accommodated me in a short timespan between pregnancies. On the surface, they’ve always seemed super supportive….but now I’m wondering if it’s becoming discrimination. I work for a small company, and have always been praised for my performance and have never had any negative feedback. However, there has been a weird energy shift within the last year. I’ve certainly found my “backbone” and feel that I have changed from “pet to threat”. But still, nothing negative has ever been said. We had our yearly review last week, in which I was presented with a raise and a bonus.. which is great, but it was a lot lower than I was expecting based on how it’s increased in years past. I’ve had the same position for 5yrs and have NEVER been offered anything else, but I have certainly been given more work! The person doing my review is my direct report, but is also our “HR”, during the review, she asked “So I can be prepared, do you plan on having anymore kids after this?”, keep in mind, I’m literally 38 weeks pregnant. I didn’t think much of it at the time, but now I realize how totally inappropriate this was. This person is “friendly” to everyone, but after truly getting to know them, I’ve realized how fake and narcissistic they are. Did they ask me that to try to justify not giving me a higher raise/different position? Or will they not offer me stuff in the future due to me potentially having more children? I was already considering a career change after this maternity leave, and this is making me want to even more. This is just one of the MANY red flags I’ve noticed lately, the rest aren’t even pregnancy/family related. Didn’t mean for this to be so long, but I guess I’m just seeking some advice?