u/Commander-Ken1973

only had it two weeks. just a quick review of the buying experience. Folsom Chevy. used Costco buying package, still, just an incredible hard sell approach, relentless. I went in knowing it would be like that, but the level was over the top. got out of most of the dealer added bs, really pushed the warranty, the finance guy was rude and made a personal comment, rapacious is how I would describe them. no extended warranty for me, Onstar, called and cancelled the next day. after a few days, I realized, there is a lot to learn about an EV, and they didn’t spend 15 minutes on how to use the actual car.

SMUD, registered for discount. must charge 12-6am. Good luck setting up delayed chargers for that time. went round and round for about an hour. I “think“ i set it up to start at 12: am. there was some discussion on setting departure time. you think an EV would have a straight forward charge app that says I want to charge from this time to that time, evidently not.

need to go back next week to get another fob, they lost it at the dealership. Nice. going to ask a few questions about operating the car, maybe they will redeem themselves. if not , I would avoid these guys. I do like the car, good pickup, drivers seat, etc good so far. Wanders on freeway compared to my Pilot, not surprised. Gas at $6 , been through this in the 70s, just that alone justifies the purchase. drive about 200 miles a month, so SLOW level one charging time.

will get back with anything I figure out.

Touching bases,still in the fray. Primary care, got overwhelmed at beginning of year. home aide and Zoloft got me back on track. I can cope with the myriad trials and tribulation's presented now, and still remain steadfast, and in a decent frame of mind. Spouse is progressing as expected, forgetting to flush and more and more inability to grasp with hands, I tried to have her help me fold up some covers, that’s when I realized she can’t hold the edges, evidently those two indicate some missing brain activity. Brain shrinkage was mentioned in my research. so the downward spiral continues.

A steady daily routine is followed, and really helps her stay steady. Wont eat regular food, but snacks and ensure keep her weight good. Daily walk, but getting slower and slower, and will wander into street unless constantly reminded. Audio hallucinations, the aide told me she hears someone talking to her in the shower , and visual hallucinations, doesn’t get reflections, she thinks it is another person. Early morning wandering or fussing about in bedroom for hours, but no harm. locked external doors, cameras, and alarms, she can go out on the deck, but it’s fenced. My sleep suffers, so I’m tired, just like you.

This is my life now. I get 5 hours off 3 days a week, and it really helps. on the practical side , I can go grocery shopping alone, fwiw I rather enjoy it. sometimes hook up with old ski buddies, ride the bike trail, kayaking locally, really gives me break. sometimes, I’ll get a nice to go order and park in far end of the parking lot, and listen to podcasts or something, and just enjoy the solitude. Need to keep sane for the long haul. I can also do some upkeep on the house, fixed dryrot on the deck rails, guy stuff, also making the place as maintenance free as possible. Actually saw the Hail Mary project in an empty theater, hadn’t been since COVID.

So I’m good for now. If you hit the wall like I did, there is help. If you are stuck in your brain with a whirlwind of worriers and concerns, talk to someone. For me, it was my doctor. Professional, compassionate, and straight talk got me back. And Zoloft. really got my old self back, its no panacea, but it really helped.

now the issue. Spouse has 2 daughters, I am step dad. One is my right hand, does doctor stuff, takes her to “help run errands”. The other is a no show. Now, out of the blue, she wants to get back in, visit her mom. I am ambivalent. She really doesn’t know what her mom is like, or deviation from routine can cause upheaval that I have to deal with. This has been demonstrated several times. Helper daughter recent took her to meet old friends, went to a restaurant (she doesn’t do well, too many people). when she came back, she said she had a terrible time, and it took me all night to get her back to routine. See my earlier post on a really fun Christmas dinner(snark).

I will not prevent her from seeing her mother, but it’s really late in the game. Wants to help, but is a bigwig in a major corporation, and is constantly on the phone, day and night for work purposes. Weekly out of town, not really sure what she could do. it’s just watching and waiting for me now, there is not much else to be done. As always, my goal, CSC, clean, safe, and cared for.

Thanks, dear readers, hope you get something from this, it really helps to write this down.