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Every time I login I immediately get asked for someone to join, it's the same person over and over again and they spam it.

I keep rejecting them, not sure if it's a kid that doesn't get the hint or a bot or something but it happens all the way till I log out. It's getting annoying and I'm just wondering if there's something I can do or block them or something.

I don't want anyone on my island until I have my island organized but this person is not getting the hint and it's been happening since I got invited for the beta test.

PLZ DONT PUT I NEED A THERAPIST!!! I know I need one but I need something to get me by till then. If your just gonna type "get a therapist" just don't comment!!!! PLZ!!!!!

Hi, I’m an FTM guy in my early 20s, and I’m looking for advice from other trans people or anyone who might have experienced something similar.

I have an extremely strong reaction to sexualized depictions of women and women face. This can be real people, fictional characters, anime, video games, shows, artwork, etc. Even things that aren't necessarily meant to be sexual, like certain swimwear, can sometimes trigger the reaction.

When I see something that triggers me, my brain and body react almost as if I’m in danger. I can become extremely nauseous and lightheaded, start shaking heavily, feel very hot or cold, get intense anxiety and dysphoria, and develop really bad headaches and crying uncontrollably. Sometimes I’ll remain upset for hours afterward, and occasionally it can affect me for days.

It isn't just seeing images, either. Even when people talk about women sexually or discuss their bodies, I can have a similar reaction. And even reading about games description on the tags in what the sexual content is about or in books and ect.

There are a very small number of fictional female characters that I'm okay with. It's usually characters I've known very little or loved for a long time and developed a strong connection with. There are probably only around 20 or so characters that I can comfortably look at and I'm confused on why, and even then, sometimes a character can become uncomfortable for me depending on how they're portrayed. I rarely find new characters that I'm comfortable with.

This has gotten to the point where I can't enjoy some of my favorite games or shows because I'm afraid I'll suddenly encounter something that triggers me. I also had trouble working because of it. At one job, someone came in wearing an anime shirt featuring women in bikinis, and my body became so tense that I couldn't properly focus on my tasks. It felt like I couldn't take control of my reaction no matter how hard I tried.

I don't currently have access to therapy because of financial reasons, so I'm trying to figure out what I can do in the meantime.

My boyfriend also used to look at sexualized content without telling me, which made things significantly worse when I found out myself. However, I feel like this problem was already getting worse before that happened. He's stopped and has been trying to help me when I get triggered by removing the content and helping me calm down, and I appreciate that.

Another part that makes this especially confusing is how it affects my feelings about myself. I'm FTM and have been out for several years, but I haven't been able to start testosterone because of financial reasons. I want to be a man, but I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being associated with people who sexualize women or talk about women's bodies that way. I also hate being sexualized myself.

Sometimes it makes me feel like I don't belong anywhere. I don't want to be seen as someone who looks at women that way, and I don't want to be sexualized either. I just want to be able to exist as a guy without feeling like I'm somehow connected to something that makes me this uncomfortable.

All of this has gotten to the point where sometimes I genuinely wish I was blind, just so I wouldn't have to see or worry about encountering this kind of content anymore. I don't mean that I want to hurt myself or anything like that. I just feel so overwhelmed by how strongly my body reacts to something that seems unavoidable in everyday life.

I've tried distracting myself when I get triggered, but lately that hasn't been working very well. It has gotten to the point where I feel like I'm missing out on things I enjoy and don't know how to live normally around these triggers until I'm financially able to get professional help.

I'm not looking for anyone to tell me that I should be attracted to women or that this is just part of being a man. That's actually part of what scares me. I want to be comfortable being myself without feeling pressured to view women sexually.

It has also gotten to the point where I sometimes don't even want to leave the house because I'm afraid I'll encounter something that triggers me. It can be something as simple as a shirt, an advertisement, a store display, or even walking past the clothing section where there are pictures of women wearing bras or underwear.

I know that those pictures aren't necessarily meant to be sexualized, but my brain doesn't seem to make that distinction. Just seeing a woman wearing very little clothing can be enough to make my body react with the same anxiety and dysphoria, even when there is nothing inherently sexual about the image. Because I never know when I'm going to encounter something like that, I feel like I'm constantly on guard whenever I go out.

(I don't like sexualizing women, I don't like the idea and it sucks that people won't keep to themselves by not posting it and talking about it or wearing inappropriate shirts and ect. It grosses me out seeing that stuff.)

Has anyone else experienced something like this, particularly severe dysphoria or anxiety around sexualized depictions of women? If so, what helped you cope with it?

PLZ DONT PUT I NEED A THERAPIST!!! I know I need one but I need something to get me by till then. If your just gonna type "get a therapist" just don't comment!!!! PLZ!!!!!

Hi, I’m an FTM guy in my early 20s, and I’m looking for advice from other trans people or anyone who might have experienced something similar.

I have an extremely strong reaction to sexualized depictions of women and women face. This can be real people, fictional characters, anime, video games, shows, artwork, etc. Even things that aren't necessarily meant to be sexual, like certain swimwear, can sometimes trigger the reaction.

When I see something that triggers me, my brain and body react almost as if I’m in danger. I can become extremely nauseous and lightheaded, start shaking heavily, feel very hot or cold, get intense anxiety and dysphoria, and develop really bad headaches and crying uncontrollably. Sometimes I’ll remain upset for hours afterward, and occasionally it can affect me for days.

It isn't just seeing images, either. Even when people talk about women sexually or discuss their bodies, I can have a similar reaction. And even reading about games description on the tags in what the sexual content is about or in books and ect.

There are a very small number of fictional female characters that I'm okay with. It's usually characters I've known very little or loved for a long time and developed a strong connection with. There are probably only around 20 or so characters that I can comfortably look at and I'm confused on why, and even then, sometimes a character can become uncomfortable for me depending on how they're portrayed. I rarely find new characters that I'm comfortable with.

This has gotten to the point where I can't enjoy some of my favorite games or shows because I'm afraid I'll suddenly encounter something that triggers me. I also had trouble working because of it. At one job, someone came in wearing an anime shirt featuring women in bikinis, and my body became so tense that I couldn't properly focus on my tasks. It felt like I couldn't take control of my reaction no matter how hard I tried.

I don't currently have access to therapy because of financial reasons, so I'm trying to figure out what I can do in the meantime.

My boyfriend also used to look at sexualized content without telling me, which made things significantly worse when I found out myself. However, I feel like this problem was already getting worse before that happened. He's stopped and has been trying to help me when I get triggered by removing the content and helping me calm down, and I appreciate that.

Another part that makes this especially confusing is how it affects my feelings about myself. I'm FTM and have been out for several years, but I haven't been able to start testosterone because of financial reasons. I want to be a man, but I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being associated with people who sexualize women or talk about women's bodies that way. I also hate being sexualized myself.

Sometimes it makes me feel like I don't belong anywhere. I don't want to be seen as someone who looks at women that way, and I don't want to be sexualized either. I just want to be able to exist as a guy without feeling like I'm somehow connected to something that makes me this uncomfortable.

All of this has gotten to the point where sometimes I genuinely wish I was blind, just so I wouldn't have to see or worry about encountering this kind of content anymore. I don't mean that I want to hurt myself or anything like that. I just feel so overwhelmed by how strongly my body reacts to something that seems unavoidable in everyday life.

I've tried distracting myself when I get triggered, but lately that hasn't been working very well. It has gotten to the point where I feel like I'm missing out on things I enjoy and don't know how to live normally around these triggers until I'm financially able to get professional help.

I'm not looking for anyone to tell me that I should be attracted to women or that this is just part of being a man. That's actually part of what scares me. I want to be comfortable being myself without feeling pressured to view women sexually.

It has also gotten to the point where I sometimes don't even want to leave the house because I'm afraid I'll encounter something that triggers me. It can be something as simple as a shirt, an advertisement, a store display, or even walking past the clothing section where there are pictures of women wearing bras or underwear. I know that those pictures aren't necessarily meant to be sexualized, but my brain doesn't seem to make that distinction. Just seeing a woman wearing very little clothing can be enough to make my body react with the same anxiety and dysphoria, even when there is nothing inherently sexual about the image. Because I never know when I'm going to encounter something like that, I feel like I'm constantly on guard whenever I go out.

(I don't like sexualizing women, I don't like the idea and it sucks that people won't keep to themselves by not posting it and talking about it. It grosses me out seeing that stuff.)

Has anyone else experienced something like this, particularly severe dysphoria or anxiety around sexualized depictions of women? If so, what helped you cope with it?