r/GenderDysphoria

I'm a 14 year old member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, and I have a lot of gender dysphoria. I was born male, but over the last year or so I've been feeling as though my gender at birth does not align with who I am or want to be.

The church has rules that state that, in short, I shouldn't go transgender. I have tried accepting that fact and praying about it but it has never helped me. I still feel deeply that my biological gender does not align with who I am.

I am not willing to leave my church over this. No matter what I choose, I know that I believe in Jesus Christ, but other than that, I'm not sure.

I have not brought this up to my parents, and I'm struggling feeling comfortable to do so. I know that my parents would be supportive of me, but I'm really shy and I can't bring myself to tell them.

I'm looking for help/advice from anyone who would like to give me some.

Girls life is so shitty bro. I've seens girl's life around me. And I feel its more of a blessing to be born as a guy. What do you think coorect me with your opinions if I am wrong.

i

text talk sing hum walk sit cry THINK

like a girl

every mannerism I have is inherently feminine

i’m so sensitive

like a girl

It’s just fragile masculinity at this point and i know it

it all bothers me

it’s pathetic

and gross

i just want to BE a boy

but

im

not

and everyone knows it

so

i

should

NEED

to

stop

pretending

And just go back to being a good

daughter granddaughter sister niece girlfriend

because its easier for all of us

to

forget

he

ever

existed

right?

Helping a friend of mine.

I just always assumed I couldn’t be trans because I didn’t hate what I saw when I looked in the mirror my whole life.

But I’ve felt for a very long time this disconnect with my emotions, like everything I want and what I articulate I want is pulled between two impulses. One that seems more pure and one that seems self conscious wanting me to be typical. I always assumed that was just my autism.

On top of that, I used to have some internalized misandry. I knew it was wrong, but I felt that men are evil and it’s wrong to be one. So I hated myself for being a man.

I also have this sense of dread about the future and living and aging as a man, having the male role in life has been creeping up on me. I’m not sure if that’s just a poor idea of what constitutes being a man in life that’s coming from me and that I could fix my self perception and perception of life with CBT or if that’s dysphoria.

After I started identifying as nonbinary I felt less bad about that and also stopped having internalized misandry. I like men more than before, and I empathize with them more than when I thought of myself as a man. I seem more healthy in how I think about both myself and others. I kinda want to feminize after I move out of my parents’ house. To see if doing that, transitioning, gives me more clarity, makes me feel more whole.

Do you think I could be deceiving myself?

I will talk to a mental health professional as well.

Ever since I was in middle school, I wanted to have a bulge. Like I would stuff my jeans with socks kind of thing. Now at 24 I still do want to have a dick.

Sometimes I sit behind my bf and pretend his dick is mine then play with it. I can kinda feel it mentally so this works quite nicely.

Of course I’m realistic. There’s no way I can grow a dick naturally. I WIISHSHHHH magic is real lol.

In middle school I used to wish I was a boy too, but yeah I repressed that side of me and go the opposite way and become very fem and slutty sometimes. I feel like if I’m tall I would start T but since I’m 5’1 I don’t think I’d make a very convincing man :(

Also my bf stated he won’t be attracted to me if I transition, which is understandable cuz he’s straight.

I dunno… now I don’t want to be a man tbh. I just wanna be a girl with a dick. Anyone ever felt the same?

I really have no clue where to post this so I figured I'd post it here. I may delete this post later.

I (M, Bi) have always been rather feminine in appearance and have always liked this fact about me. I knew I was bisexual at around 12/13 years old and around this time I developed what I now know is called "testicular dysphoria". Because of this, I have wanted an orchiectomy since about the same age once I found out about the procedure. Whenever I have attempted to discuss this or seek help I have always been labeled as an "egg" or as having "OCD". I have found a few individuals who claim to also have "testicular dysphoria", however none of them seem to be in my same situation. Additionally I have no interest in transitioning.

There have to be other individuals out there who have experienced something similar to what I am going through, right?

I'm a bit confused lately (M,16)

Hi ! I'm (16, M) a bit confused lately regarding a few thoughts I’ve had in recent weeks (I say this in advance but the post may be long)

Two weeks ago, I had a dream where I was a woman looking at myself in the mirror. It was a bit random and funny because in it I was pregnant.

Anyway, when I woke up it really disturbed me, I started to feel a confusion that I never really felt before. The funny thing is that from a very young age I liked my feminine side more, and I always wondered what it was like to be in a girl's body.

I’ve never really liked men except for my friends and some member of my family, I’ve had a bit of violent traumas compared to men and now I don’t really like them much anymore, and I like my masculine sides less and less, like the beard or the hair on my chest etc...

I started talking about it to friends and my thoughts became a little more structured, but not completely either. I don’t know if I want to be gendered as female or male, even though I prefer to be gendered as male. I’m really very confused at the moment. I also want to try bras or shave myself, etc.

I don’t feel like doing it right away because I live with my parents, although they are understanding, I just, for now, don’t really want them to see me like that.

The problem with these thoughts is that they make me hate even more the parts of my body I already didn’t like; everything below my chest makes me feel even weirder than before, especially my crotch.

sometimes I tell myself that what I think is a bit crazy, and then sometimes it’s completely clear. these thoughts aren’t there all day, but I don’t know if one day they’ll make me have an existential crisis or something like that.

All that to say that I’m not really sure how to deal with these thoughts right now (despite the fact that I’ve written and played a song about it), and I was wondering how I could be more feminine? or have advice regarding everything I’ve said before?

if you have any style recommendations, I would be more into dark makeup, I dress in alternative fashion !

excuse my english for some sentences, I'm french :')

hoping to have clearer thoughts about this, let me know if you have any questions!!:)

Almost everyone on Reddit tried to tell me that the only solution to my CCRD was to transition.

For nearly 3 years I kept hearing this again and again.

After a long battle, I can finally say that I am functionally free.

I am free...

I don't know if I actually feel gender dysphoria or if I just want to be like characters from a tv/movie/game I like. This all started because a character in a show I like came out as trans and I don't know if it's just me wanting to be like them. I usually feel dull and I really only daydream about my hyper fixations as they are really the only thing I have besides my immediate family. At the same time thinking of myself has always been hard. don't know what to do. I guess it does not matter to much since I would just rep anyways.

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Hey so this is my first post on reddit and I’m just wanting to say is, how many other people sometimes daydream, wish, or think about being the opposite gender? I don’t want this to come off weird but, especially during 2023, I kind of thought to myself, “How would my life be if I were just a girl?” I’m a closeted Bi dude. It’s not an exact 50/50 split of me liking both genders but, either way, there was a few times where I thought of changing myself of and being more feminine or thought to myself of wanting to being a girl.

I wanna know how many other people kind of feel like this?

There was also few times where I’d choose clothes that would come across more gay/feminine?? I don’t know, I don’t like thinking far into things about this because I really don’t get it and I don’t know anyone that can actually help me shed light on this and understand what it is I’m feeling

(I also don’t know if the community I select is right so I hope it is right to post to this one)

I (21) was assigned male at birth. I've had thoughts of wanting to be a girl ever since i was little. They were never too serious, and i never heavily considered transitioning. The most I've seriously considered in the past is being nonbinary. Recently, I've wanted to explore those feelings more.

I never felt that i fit the role of manhood well. Until 3rd grade my social circle was entirely girls, and i remember feeling left out by our parents because im a boy and boys dont do these things, or boys cant have sleepovers with girls. I was always bullied for being feminine or having feminine interests, but over time i hammered those out to the point where i could comfortably engage with and maintain relationships with men.

I've never found myself attractive. In high school had an eating disorder and body dysmorphia, but after taking therapy I became far more comfortable in my body, even if i didn't particularly like it.

I recently decided i wanted to try cross dressing and get some breast forms to see how i feel looking at myself that way. I went to goodwill and got some blouses, skirts, fem pants, and i got some basic make-up.

Last night me and my partner (21, NB) got me all dressed up for the first time. We did my makeup, got the right clothes to emphasize my curves, and ofc I wore the breast forms. For the first time in my life i felt genuinely attractive. I could look in the mirror with my partner and not feel that i needed to look away from myself.

I hadn't realized how much i still feel uncomfortable with my body. I don't necessary feel fully comfortable fem either, but i felt better. I felt genuinely sexy and desirable.

I felt good last night. Later, when i was taking it off it made me so depressed. It all felt so fake. I felt ugly. I was scared to look in the mirror. I wanted the breast forms off but i didnt want to see myself without them. I wanted to stay as that version of myself.

I cried and I keep on crying. I don't understand what I'm feeling. Maybe its gender dysphoria, or maybe I'm just depressed and wish i was someone else. I can't tell if I'm acting or being true to myself. The fact that I'm attracted to myself like that is simultaneously validating and so invalidating.

I called out of work today because emotionally im all over the place. I don't want to go outside fem or masc. I feel so uncomfortable with everything. I feel hyper aware of judgment from everyone. I don't even know how to explain my emotional state without sharing more than I'm comfortable with but i feel a strong urge to talk to people. Maybe im just moving faster than my emotions can catch up.

Is all of this normal? I don't feel like i know the slightest thing about being queer or trans. Im not looking forward to having conversations with cisgender people about this. How do you all manage these emotions?

I'm just so confused and low key spiraling, so any advice or support would be much appreciated.

Edit: Is this dysphoria?

Hi, I don't know what to do... I told my partner I need a dramatic breast reduction, but then I found out that they can just GROW BACK even bigger. So I started referring to it as "top surgery" instead of "breast reduction". He confronted me about it last night, asking for clarification... I told him I can't let them grow back, and my family history would suggest they will.

He got really quiet, and I started crying (silently). I asked him if he wanted me there, but he asked me to be more specific. I said, "Is the answer different?" He got quiet again, so I went to sleep on the couch.

That was before midnight when he drove away, and he's still not back at 8am. He hasn't texted either.

Does anyone have experience with something like this?

I want to be a girl so much, I can't stop thinking about it. But I'm tall, I'm 200 pounds and am having so much trouble losing weight. Even if I did, my shoulders are so broad and all my features are so masculine.

I know that passing isn't required, but I if I can't pass then I don't even know if I should try.

I want this so bad but I'm so scared, I just wish someone would force me into a girl.

So I’ve (15mtf) had transmasc friends my age get binders and shit from certain websites for the high price of $0. Obviously, I’m intrigued by this because my parents are not big fans of my gender identity and my broke ass ain’t gonna convince them to spend money on things that would possibly make me happy (God forbid). Dysphoria is starting to suck to a point in which I have to ask Internet forums for help now, SO, are there any sites in which I can get bras or tucking underwear for free or cheap?

Transitioning is only worth it to me if it deletes all sources of dysphoria and i know thats not possible for me. My torso makes me want to die. I hate my shoulders and i know they cant change. What am i supposed to do. It makes me feel disgusted to even exist, to move around or show my presence to people. I cant afford any surgery. I need my ribcage and shoulders to be smaller and they arent. They cant be. I cant take this. I wont live much longer if this doesnt change. I cant live with a obvious reminder of what i went through all my life. I am too aware of them all the time and it ruins my mood constantly. Please somebody help.