u/Commercial-Gap-7722

Im seeing or was seeing?? This woman, we've been on plenty of dates and haven't for a couple of months due to her life becoming busy and she asked for space. I asked her if she would go on a date with me and she agreed. We haven't come up with a time. We stopped seeing eachother so much due to life getting in the way and her telling me she has no libido due to starting perimenopause. She's been very different with me and we dont talk nearly as much as we used to. Today I came over to fix her dresser and found out shes seeing someone else. Were not exclusive but I was under the impression everything stopped because of the libido. Do I bring it up? I dont want her to think I was snooping but this hurts. What do I do?

Is it true that avoidant people push away the one they care about the most and treat them differently? Like colder and make no time to see you anymore? Yet they call you almaot everyday sometimes multiple times a day and text you first most of the time. They say because theyre busy and going thru alot right now and dont want to hurt me. Everything seems to be on their terms. Ive been doing alot of work on myself so I can be the best healthiest version of myself possible. Everything was going great and flowing and then boom I noticed a withdrawal. I know theyre busy with work, personal life, health and of course spend time with your friends. I dont want to take up all of their time. Do they come back around or did they lose interest? Or am I not being considerate? Just looking to help understand better.