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So I just turned 20 and I've had many mishaps with my progress in life. I dropped out of college and though I have my driving license, I am unable to drive. Let me first say that with college, I never had a problem with studying, I finished a semester, but I have a psychological issue with the school building (idek what it is, maybe i just buried it so long ago that I have the feelings but not the cause). I talked to a therapist and she said that maybe the environment was too childish for me and I need a more mature environment.) It was frustrating because I enjoy classes, but when I am in school I can't function and my heart hurts. With driving, I am hyper sensitive to everything. I freeze and panic, which is terrible to the others on the road. I find that weird since i always wanted to drive. But anyways, I am at a point where I am in online school now and I avoid the road.

So my problem now is that I keep having arguments with my father over little things and he gets emotional and shuts me off. I am tired of having to beg for tuition and other little things, but where I live, transportation is horrible and the only jobs that are available are in hospitality and I won't be able to get home If i get a job (transportation stops at 12, but work also stop at 12). Also, if i do get a job, it would take 4 hours to travel so I would be drained with no time for studying.

(I am very weak and sensitive to the sun, but I live in a sunny place. I went to the doctor for blood work to see if anything is wrong, but they can't find anything. Except that i may be on the spectrum for autism)

Please don't misunderstand and think that I finding excuses to avoid school and driving. I really tried and pushed past my limit to the point where i even fainted coming from school, (i held up traffic really bad)
I just don't know what to do, or even where to begin. I have always been frugal and made myself small so that I don't inconvenience anyone, but with such a big expense that is school, I really hate being on the dependent side of money.

Are there any entry level job titles that I can research? I just want to make sure that I finish my degree online without mishaps.

This will be really short, but I had an argument with my father over something that I think is really important. For context, my sister drank juice, but it was expired and she ran to the kitchen to spit it out into the sink. My dad pointed his fork at her head and said that If she ever did that again (spat in the kitchen sink opposed to the bathroom sink) he would pound her head. My sister got scared and immediately cried. (she is 11)

As someone who is from the Caribbean, I am used to adults using harsh language to teach lessons, but I am tired of tolerating it. Threats should never be your way of punishing or redirecting actions, especially to a child that overall responds well and is gentle in nature. I don't care how you grew up, this is not the past and there is no reason for an adult who already has two 20 year olds to be talking out of anger. You would think that a parent could get it right by now. Why do you need to speak with so much anger to a 11 year old with a sharp object pointed at her?

Parents are the first form of self respect that we the children have, are you saying that others can talk to me like that? I think not. You wouldn't even like others to speak to YOU like that.

I questioned him and he said that I can't question how he parents. He would have used a napkin roll if it were in his hand, the fork was in his hand so he used it, he wasn't threatening.

But he didn't use a roll of napkins, and she was scared. I told him that no matter what lesson he was trying to teach her about spitting in the sink, he was wrong. He should have first found out if everything was okay with her since she rushed to the sink, he also shouldn't have said such words since they were scary to her and he apologize.

He looked at me as if I were crazy for telling him the parent to apologize for threating his child. Am I going crazy or is he in the wrong?