u/CommercialAngle8336

Hi I have been climbing about 2-3 times every other week since January. I find myself doing better on slabs now and have done my first ever V4 recently but still stay within the V2-V3 range for most. I want to get better and still struggle with overhang I think it is because of my upper body my muscles are not that built. My partner 21M has been climbing for 3 years and does comp climbing he is cracked at bouldering and can do V9 etc. i am still pretty new to this and struggle with the comparison aspect to men especially through bouldering. He wants to do some outdoor bouldering but I don’t feel like I am ready I can’t really hold myself up well enough even on like a tension board. If any girls have any general fitness advice or general bouldering advice for improving I would really appreciate it.

I [22F] have an issue with my boyfriend [21M]we were friends prior to dating and i know in his past relationship he was caught with an extreme porn addiction saving girls from OF content, creating a gooning twitter account and watching porn immediately anytime of the day when he was doing any activity while his ex girlfriend was gone or not with him. Atter their breakup about a month or two when they broke up we started talking and eventually dating a few weeks later. He told me he went to therapy for about a month and how he is not a ticking time bomb going to get that bad again and fall into the cycle. A few months into the relationship I wanted to ask how he has been with his addiction recovery and When i was finally able to ask about it again recently he admitted to me he watched a homepage video on like xvideos for according to him for like 5 minutes. I do believe this would be considered relapsing if I am not mistaken and I don't know if I personally believe in casually watching porn again like he might want to due to his past addiction.I don't want to come off as over monitoring him I personally stopped watching porn over a year ago but it was never to the point of an active addiction that was apart of my life. I do feel very sad over this like I failed him in some way but also like I am not good enough. I don't want to tell him this and it comes off as me shaming him or belittling his progress. How can I bring this up to him in a way that sets boundaries about porn use in our relationship without shaming him or coming across as controlling, and what boundaries would be reasonable given his past addiction?