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Fourth week

Hello wonderful people. Today is four weeks since dday. We had a really good day, except for my trigger at the store that included a dig at him. Honestly, it was a really good day compared to my preceding days. This weekend my SA/PA WH registered us for an EMS weekend with Affair Recovery in July. We would go next month but our daughter is getting married then. (Oh boy). WH still continues to do everything I have asked, including having two sponsors, SAA 6 days a week and IC biweekly. I monitor his texts and he’s getting good advice regarding my emotional state. I did start an SSRI a week ago and my state of mind is greatly improving. I love the quote of “Pharmaceutical help when you’re in crisis is like calling a tow truck to pull your car out of a ditch.” If you haven’t listened to Ask the Betrayed/Unfaithful podcast, I highly recommend it. I wrote out my shame list as described in the Betrayal Bind today. I did ask WH to read it and he was very receptive. I still keep waiting for him to fizzle out.

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u/Commercial_Ad_5419 — 4 days ago

My husband (50’sM) sex addiction was discovered by me (50’sF) Sunday. My world has come crashing down. He has been webcamming, texting, hooking up, and acting out with others for three years. I also started to suspect several months ago and kept pushing and looking.

I got tested yesterday and tests are clear, so far. I pushed him for a body count and it’s trickling up, currently it’s 12.

He started IC in January and we started CC in February for something else that now I know is related. He went to 12 step and found sponsors there, and our pastor is on board for accountability.

He says he wants to change, etc, etc. We are meeting tomorrow to draw up a list of expectations and I have an appt with a lawyer for a separation agreement. IF he follows everything, doesn’t act out, takes me to an intensive for couples, etc, I will consider reconciliation. I plan to give him a year.

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u/Commercial_Ad_5419 — 28 days ago