Reasons I wouldn’t go back, in no particular order
You completely broke my trust. You kept mentioning breaking up while also saying you weren’t going to do it, only to blindside me anyway. You never gave me a real chance to address or discuss the issues beforehand. That made you feel unreliable and unsafe to trust emotionally.
Emotional instability. I was trying to process the breakup calmly and honestly, and you still reacted like I was attacking you. Even when I said difficult things, I wasn’t trying to hurt you on purpose.
Your recent behavior. I said it early on, but I was right. You’ve been petty, almost like you want me to feel the same hurt you felt. Even when you’re minding your own business, you go out of your way to avoid me.
Your reasons for ending things don’t justify how you handled it. Nothing you brought up was impossible to fix or work through. We had different struggles mentally, but that never stopped me from loving you. Activities could’ve been planned together instead of left entirely on me. And the biggest disappointment is that this all somehow centered around a book. You only asked me to read it, and I went far beyond that. I took notes while listening to the audiobook, pushed through being a slow reader, and kept reading even on rough days because I cared about understanding you better. I wasn’t trying to become an expert overnight — I was trying to learn and put effort in. That effort ended up meaning nothing.
The effect this had on me. It hurt in every way. Hearing “you should’ve known better” while being treated similarly to someone else who hurt me before messed me up. I know I could be overly affectionate and touchy, but that’s why communication and boundaries matter. If I had known certain things were negatively affecting you, I would’ve changed my behavior immediately. If I knew you felt pressured or were putting your needs aside for mine, I would’ve stopped having sex entirely if that’s what was needed. What hurts is being blamed for things you actively encouraged too. There were times I wasn’t even in the mood, and you still wanted it. That makes it unfair to act like everything was solely on me.
I simply don’t love you anymore. The attraction and emotional connection faded a long time ago.
You chose familiarity over working through something difficult. You went back to Liz because it felt safer and more comfortable, even though that situation wasn’t perfect either.
You made your choice, so live with it. All I asked for was honesty and communication before decisions were made.