


Leaving the Jehovah's Witnesses and chasing my dreams
I've posted here a lot over the past couple of years, but I've always been careful about protecting my identity. But today is the day I don't care anymore...
Before I get into it, for anyone reading this who knows me who may or may not still be a believing JW, I have no hard feelings at all. You might not like what you read on this post, and I'm sure there will already be a narrative about why I left. When I was on my way out, people were saying that my marriage was on the rocks, that I was coercing my wife into leaving with me and that I would probably end up divorced and living with my parents again 😂 Any which way, I'm just having my say and you can take or leave it....and if you ever reach out to me - you always can anytime.
I'm 25 and I was born into this religion. I was a devout witness. I believed, studied hard, went out in the ministry as much as I could and followed all the rules as best I could. I tried to answer up at every meeting and read the bible every single night.
The picture below is of me on the ministry as a teenager, next to my childhood best friend, who went on to be the best man at my wedding. He hasn't spoke to me in about 2 and a half years...
There's also a picture of me and my wife (girlfriend at the time) on the cart outside the Kingdom Hall on a winter Monday evening after work. I was a ministerial servant and my wife was a regular pioneer. We were viewed as good examples and strong in the congregation, well liked and a big group of close friends our own age...
One thing I do have to say, is that even tho I was a true believer, the religion was soul crushingly boring for me. I would have felt guilty admitting that at the time, but looking back I can just see how it was not intellectually stimulating for me at all. That's why Ive included a video (pinned comments) that my wife took of me falling asleep at an assembly 😂 (Northenden Assembly - shout out to any UK exjws who know where that is haha).
All until I woke up at 21. It sort of happened overnight. It was May 2023 and I was bored at work. Out of curiosity I decided to check if Serena Williams was still a Jehovah's Witness. I went on her wiki page and found out that she waited to retire from tennis before getting baptised and I didn't like that at all. From there, I clicked on the wiki page link to Jehovahs Witnesses...before I knew it I was on JW facts. As I read, it was like I was connecting dots that had been there my whole life and I'd never joined them up before. It was an almost instant realisation that I was in a doomsday cult. I've never known a feeling quite like it...absolutely surreal.
From there I went on to do copious amounts of research about the organisation, the doctrines and every belief I had ever had for a good six to eight months.
At this point I wanna say thank you to this community. The posts here helped me and my wife so much when we woke up. And having a place to dump my thoughts about everything JW related and see what people said has been so cathartic.
But now, three years on, me and my wife are fully out. We both fully woke up and faded successfully. We've never been happier. And now that we are out we are pursuing our real goals. I've always wanted to be in a band since I started playing bass when I was like 15. I had been in Jehovah's Witness bands but we had to "keep them in their place".
But I'm immensely proud of building new friendships, creating music, and just doing what I love. We've just released our latest single 'Don't Let Me Waste It', and I wanted to share that here to show how far I've come. I've included a little clip of me (the bassist!) playing the song with my band, here's the link if you wanna check it out: Don't Let Me Waste It
I hope this post might help someone who is scared about what life will be like when they leave...I hope it gives them a bit of hope and inspiration that things can and do get better. And that its hard at first...really hard...but it has to get worse before it gets better. Be brave, believe in yourself and enjoy your new found freedom outside of the Watchtower prison!
What did you guys do when you escaped the Watchtower??