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i’ve always dealt with atopic/ allergic conditions, had asthma since i was a baby with severe chronic recurrent urticaria and chronic sinusitis

though i haven’t found out a specific allergen i’m sensitive to, i develop wheals in response to pretty much everything and if i don’t wake up with a runny nose its a miracle

my eosinophils and lymphocytes are through the roof along with neutropenia and i’m currently waiting for the results of my autoimmune panel… i’m a 3rd year medical student and highly suspecting my condition is autoimmune related to mast cell degranulation

is this common in the autism community?? and is there a link between autism and atopic/ allergic disorders and if so why? i did find some papers on it but i wanted to know more from actual people that have lived with it

I feel like I’ve noticed that most men, even the neurodivergent ones, usually have a much easier time being friends with other males and there’s lesser unspoken rules, cliqueism and talks behind one’s back?

I’ve always struggled with being friends with neurotypical women and it’s so energy draining always walking around eggshells and thinking of what to say but men— men just become “buddies” even with a guy that they just met.

I can think of so many girls that have been ostracised and removed from friend groups but not once in the twenty years of my life have I witnessed males cutting out a friend of theirs because they didn’t agree with their actions… I want to know why that is

edit: i’m not saying that men don’t get excluded this is more so regarding established friends groups- men don’t tend to have falling outs/ get dropped by their friends cause of their actions/ words/ rumours.. we see this so often that men will let everything their “homie” does slide but women are a lot stricter

so about 8 months ago i had a falling out with the girls who were my best friends for the past 3 years the reason being that they thought i was too selfish and mean, when i asked them to list examples they started giving ones of two years ago etc which i’m so confused by—- if you had a problem back then why didn’t you say it?? so we could have solved it?? neurotypicals always do this— they’re never upfront about their feelings

also they know im autistic and they said that it’s not their problem accommodating to my needs… anyways since then i hang out with my guy friends— lil backstory— i dated this one dude 2 years ago and when we broke up his entire gang of 10 people stopped talking to me even though we were friends, i have 4 other guy friends but there’s a lot of things that guys just do with each other and a singular girl being there would be weird so i tend to be excluded from pretty much all of their plans outside uni.. also they’re GREAT friends with the 10 dudes that stopped talking to me so if they’re hanging out i can’t come and talk to them

and in general i always find myself hanging out with guys but i can’t get comfortable enough with them nor can they with me.. i feel like at this point in uni everyone has their own group and im just there.. no solid group just nomadic.

i hate that i miss my neurotypical girl friend group cause at least i could say oh they’re my ride or dies… feel like i cant exactly say that anymore.. and its not like the guys dont like me it’s just that they obviously have a brotherhood between each other and they share a room etc…

i just want sisterhood.. i have so many regrets from uni cause its like i had like 30 friends and a pretty nice reputation in first year and now its like everyone secretly hates or judges me?? and lowkey i feel like the catalyst for this was my ex and i breaking up…

so about 8 months ago i had a falling out with the girls who were my best friends for the past 3 years the reason being that they thought i was too selfish and mean, when i asked them to list examples they started giving ones of two years ago etc which i’m so confused by—- if you had a problem back then why didn’t you say it?? so we could have solved it?? neurotypicals always do this— they’re never upfront about their feelings

also they know im autistic and they said that it’s not their problem accommodating to my needs… anyways since then i hang out with my guy friends— lil backstory— i dated this one dude 2 years ago and when we broke up his entire gang of 10 people stopped talking to me even though we were friends, i have 4 other guy friends but there’s a lot of things that guys just do with each other and a singular girl being there would be weird so i tend to be excluded from pretty much all of their plans outside uni.. also they’re GREAT friends with the 10 dudes that stopped talking to me so if they’re hanging out i can’t come and talk to them

and in general i always find myself hanging out with guys but i can’t get comfortable enough with them nor can they with me.. i feel like at this point in uni everyone has their own group and im just there.. no solid group just nomadic.

i hate that i miss my neurotypical girl friend group cause at least i could say oh they’re my ride or dies… feel like i cant exactly say that anymore.. and its not like the guys dont like me it’s just that they obviously have a brotherhood between each other and they share a room etc…

i just want sisterhood.. i have so many regrets from uni cause its like i had like 30 friends and a pretty nice reputation in first year and now its like everyone secretly hates or judges me?? and lowkey i feel like the catalyst for this was my ex and i breaking up…

Last night Iran broke the ceasefire and fired missiles at uae, any chance the concert is getting canceled?? I don’t want to book tickets and waste money later…