u/CommunicationFun9299

Opinions and word of wisdom pleaseeee and Apologies for this weird title but my question is I’ll provide you with a scenario and I want you to tell me your honest opinion would you break up or what’s the issue at hand. So my friend and his girl have been talking for a few months leading on a year they have fun when they hang out and everything else no issues with their relationship together. His girl overly friend and I mean overly she had this energetic personality around her all the time so she’s always talkative will give guys her socials everytime she plays video games online. My friend didn’t think much of it bc yk it’s online but that day she didn’t feel well so he couldn’t go to her house and he called her said let’s watch a movie she agrees but supposedly she was playing with this guy friend she just meant and she was comforting him bc he just went through a break up. She then offers to get on a diff game drops her socials and all that; she then makes the excuse I got “kicked off my pc sorry” and then the next day they get back to texting she says when are u gonna get off tonight and he says late and she’s alright I’m playin with my best friends sister and she was at that time but her bf already made plans and said let’s go out so she then tells the guy the following day “ sorry I lost track of time bc my friends sister was crying” blah blah and he says it’s alright wtv and they keep playing. She was at a point messaging him and ig she was having a rough game and she says no one on her team was giving calms and they didn’t wanna be happy she didn’t even say they didn’t want her to be happy and he says I want you to be happy which I find kinda weird at the moment he used it. Anyways at all cases not with just one guy but every guy she comes in contact with she never mentions that she has to go play with her boy friend that she has a boyfriend or anything related to him she always has an excuse to why she has to go. So let me know what do you guys think please and thank you and further question please ask for more clarification!!

For starters I’m not very let’s jsut say I’m 18 for the sack of it, regardless of that I have an issue I’m not a very good looking guy to be frank in today’s world I’d just say I am ugly and I do carry some weight and I’ve been working on myself lately I’ve dropped a few pounds like 20 ish I’m under 190 now, I know I carry problems and I’m working on them. But since you know I am ugly if I get into a relationship I get this since of I guess you’d call it attachment where I feel like every little thing is going to take my partner away from me and yeah I know it’s stupid I can see that myself but it doesn’t change anything in my mind. For example right we are dating we hang out all the time and stuff and when I’m home after a busy day or she is we would usually get on the game hang out and do whatever it is; And you guys know the drill when it comes to girls playing games how every guy is bc I see it all the time, she tends to play with alot of guys add them share socials and all that. I know that isn’t an issue or shouldn’t be and people tell me it is that your girl shouldn’t do that but like I said I don’t get a relationship or diff girl every week this is a once in a lifetime type of moment and I don’t want to ruin it. But when we first started talking and stuff and we’d play whenever it’s not school or weekend cause we would go out she ask me to hop on or if I’m free to play or wtv the case is; but now that I feel like she’s been playing with all of her guy friends she’s been more distant, she won’t ask to play unless I ask and last time I told her I’m be home around 11 or wtv I can get on for a bit like an hour or two bc I have to go out tmrw so I have to sleep she said okay I’ll be on but she had plans before with her guy friend to play so she told her guy friend that she had to go which I thought hey that’s good yk she dodge him to spend time with me I should be happy but then the way she told him that was “lowk might have to get off” “T_T im so sorry” “ima be off for an hour or two are you still gonna be up or na” then he says “duh lol u got a bed time?? Haha “ and she responds with nah “chores frl”. Idk if it’s me or what but I found that a little weird yk why couldn’t she say nah I have to go hang out with my bf yk what I mean am I overreacting over thinking it? Idk what to do seems like we are jsut getting further and further apart like why would I continuously ask to hang out or go out or wtv when I have this back of the head thought of “oh I’m just getting in her way of spending time with her friends” and she barely hangs out with girls online maybe 3-4 rest are guys; and I get that’s normal for girls but I don’t it’s off to me just doesn’t sit right with me. I’ve been thinking like I should just let her go but I can’t I really can’t and I don’t want to lose her I need some type of support or any words from someone please and thank you I really don’t know what I’m doing and if u have any question ask I’ll answer all no problem.