u/Competitive-Fuel1093

My sister has recently come into a situation where she threatened herself (supposedly) during school hours and one of her friends reported it to the school counselor. The past few days she's had several appointments because it's required as clearance for her to go back to school.

Here's where I need advice. What is the best way to tackle this situation? The doctors have advised taking sharp objects away (in order to not pass the rules i wont elaborate but you can use your mind). However, when we did this she got even more irritable claiming we are the problem and making it worse since we dont trust her? I tried talking reasonably but she is younger and hasn't grasped the "empathetic different perspectives approach" i am currently assuming. She had locked herself in a bathroom that contained several sharp grooming objects (again not elaborating) but it had us genuinely concerned while she was having a crying/ screaming fit.

I guess I just need advice from people that were in this place or have dealt with people in this place, but what's the best way to approach it? I am trying to take the "gentle parenting" approach i guess by explaining and understanding but my mom is trying to be a bit harsher and limit things. I'm torn because i know limiting these items is best from future issues (possibly) but I also dont want to make it worse by making her feel as though no one is in her corner??

Also just a slight addition, she's in that "i hate mom" teenage angst phase that I also went through so she's quite literally been extremely closed off to anything we have to say. I'm just concerned for her safety but also her well being- mentally -and im not sure what the right balance is or if there even is one. Any advice is truly appreciated.

My bf and I have been together for about 4 years. He's been an occasional drinker and at bad times he's unhealthily used it to cope more than he should however he's never been at a state of alcoholism id say. Now the issue is I think its getting to a really bad place due to this one occasion and I want to know if I'd be overreacting ending things over this.

For mothers day weekend I went home to spend it with family. I had just bought him a new game and he told me he was going to drink and play games with his brother which seemed chill and fine initially. Then all of mother's day and half way into today he NEVER texted me- not once. I did reach out to his brother asking if he was okay to which all he said was "he's asleep" with a video of him sleeping. I mean i get it but over 24 hours??

Back to today, he finally messaged me around 3pm and kept it consistent to about 8pm. I was supposed to head back to his place and when I was about to leave around 9 I still hadn't gotten a response back for an hour. SIDE INFO: during our consistent conversation he asked if he could go buy ramen and eggs (to which I said sure) and he used my cashapp. However he sent it to one of his other roommates and claimed his "card thing wasn't working" (tap to pay) so I just said okay. Back to the story... i drive an hour to his place and im waiting at the gate getting no reply, no calls answered, etc. When I finally make it in i find him PASSED OUT sitting on the toilet CLEARLY drunk. His brother told me he apparently bought a bottle and I discreetly asked him if he had any ramen at all today to which he said no. I asked the roommate he sent the money to as well what they bought to which he said a bottle.

I understand people drink but the fact he used my money and lied to me is so upsetting and a break of trust right?? I cant tell if I'm overreacting because I mean we've been together so long and it seems silly to end things over that but I'm fuming right now. He's drunkenly asleep next to me and all I can think of is how mad and disgusted I am for allowing him to spend my money like that. I also dont have money to spend like that?? I agreed because I believed it was food to replenish him not alcohol that I'd come home to and have to deal with. So AIO??

TLDR: My bf went on a bender and bought a bottle using my money whilst telling me he was buying ramen. Would I be overreacting if I ended things?