What to do with what I found on my bf [27M] phone
TL;DR; : I don’t know if my boyfriend is getting better at hiding things on his phone or if I’m paranoid
I (20f) and boyfriend (27m) have been dating for almost three years now. We have split and gotten back together probably 5 times within this span all surrounding issues with other women. The issues were around porn for a long time until I eventually set the boundary that I no longer wanted it to be a part of our relationship as he would use it rather than have sex with me. I moved in with him but moved out when I found out he was watching after he said he would go to therapy. Anyway in the shortest version possible we obviously have some sort of attachment issue and we are back together but I am not living with him.
So betrayals of trust that have happened is dating app usage the day of or after a we split, porn usage on Reddit, Snapchat, visiting only fans but never creating an account or paying for it regular porn, and keeping old contacts of women he used to talk to. I have regretted my decision to look through his phone again for the first time in a while out of curiosity. But what I found is eating away at me.
- he visited a girls onlyfans from a link off of YouTube (a girl who goes live and is provocative)
- he downloaded telegram when we were split and messaged a girl and then got on telegram twice again while together (he was sent verification codes in email which he deleted) on telegram it says the girls user so I reached out to her and she essentially said she didn’t care lol.
- he has visited sites twice before we were together like luxe.bio and spicy.me and I have no idea what those are
I have no idea what to do or if he messaged these people or what any of these apps are. Please help me understand and give advice. I think he is getting much better at hiding things and I’m scared he is hiding things behind my back. I looked at his screen time and he is on chrome for quite a bit of time during the day could he still be using telegram on