u/Competitive_Hair6896

I (F24) think about leaving my partner (M25) everyday. We are in the middle of wedding preparations and the only thing stopping me is the fact that we are possibly going through a rough patch and that it will be better in the future.

He’s done so much good for me, and he was especially good to me in the beginning of our relationship. We have been together since June 2024, and at the end of 2024, he had failed his final exams for year 2 of Med school, and had to repeat the entire year. This was an especially difficult time for him and I did my best to support him during that time. And, because he was under so much pressure and stress, our relationship became strained quite a lot. During this time, we were still convincing our parents to accept our marriage (I am Pakistani and he’s Indian so it took a bit of convincing, particularly from his parent side because they were strict and my parents are very supportive of what I choose for myself) and this resulted in a couple more pressure on him to defend me to his parents. I wanted to be married in December of 2024 because I wanted to no longer be in a secret relationship, and he agreed. But because of his exams, things got delayed quite a lot. So 2025 was a time where our parents met for the first time, we did a desi engagement (families only) - one where I requested from my partner a separate proposal because it was something romantic I wanted for us (also because we had a fight the day before our desi engagement). So he had from August 2025 til December 2025 to propose. He ended up not being able to because of financial issues (he lives by himself in another state to his family). As such, I figured it was not really a good time to get married in December 2025.

I moved to make it December 2026 because I had made one request for a ring, and it made no sense for the wedding to come before the proposal. In February 2026, he took me ring shopping. It’s now August 2026 and a couple weeks ago, he sent me a screenshot of the order being complete of the ring that I had picked (basic 2ct lab grown diamond ring).

I feel like too much time has passed for this to happen. It’s now feeling like a shut up ring. And I’m also feeling resentment from a lot of arguments that have happened since his studies didn’t go as planned in 2024.

I think I’ve been resenting him a lot for everything that has happened. I once asked him to open up his TikTok dm’s and I noticed a dm to a gamer girl and a few likes on her posts. It was weird considering he has been upset with me before for having celebrity crushes. Ever since then I have never stopped thinking about how he could have been cheating on me while being upset about me having a celebrity crush on Charles Leclerc.

Is there any way to stop the resentment?

I (F24) think about leaving my partner (M25) everyday. We are in the middle of wedding preparations and the only thing stopping me is the fact that we are possibly going through a rough patch and that it will be better in the future.

He’s done so much good for me, and he was especially good to me in the beginning of our relationship. We have been together since June 2024, and at the end of 2024, he had failed his final exams for year 2 of Med school, and had to repeat the entire year. This was an especially difficult time for him and I did my best to support him during that time. And, because he was under so much pressure and stress, our relationship became strained quite a lot. During this time, we were still convincing our parents to accept our marriage (I am Pakistani and he’s Indian so it took a bit of convincing, particularly from his parent side because they were strict and my parents are very supportive of what I choose for myself) and this resulted in a couple more pressure on him to defend me to his parents. I wanted to be married in December of 2024 because I wanted to no longer be in a secret relationship, and he agreed. But because of his exams, things got delayed quite a lot. So 2025 was a time where our parents met for the first time, we did a desi engagement (families only) - one where I requested from my partner a separate proposal because it was something romantic I wanted for us (also because we had a fight the day before our desi engagement). So he had from August 2025 til December 2025 to propose. He ended up not being able to because of financial issues (he lives by himself in another state to his family). As such, I figured it was not really a good time to get married in December 2025.

I moved to make it December 2026 because I had made one request for a ring, and it made no sense for the wedding to come before the proposal. In February 2026, he took me ring shopping. It’s now August 2026 and a couple weeks ago, he sent me a screenshot of the order being complete of the ring that I had picked (basic 2ct lab grown diamond ring).

I feel like too much time has passed for this to happen. It’s now feeling like a shut up ring. And I’m also feeling resentment from a lot of arguments that have happened since his studies didn’t go as planned in 2024.

I think I’ve been resenting him a lot for everything that has happened. I once asked him to open up his TikTok dm’s and I noticed a dm to a gamer girl and a few likes on her posts. It was weird considering he has been upset with me before for having celebrity crushes. Ever since then I have never stopped thinking about how he could have been cheating on me while being upset about me having a celebrity crush on Charles Leclerc.

Am I wrong for being resentful?