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As I'm planning my way out of my current job, I still have to deal with 0 boundaries when it comes to working hours. My company's core operates in European time zone, but 90% of our clients are in the US, with a huge amount of them being in Pacific time, so the time difference is huge. I am the lead project manager of several clients, and as new clients come my way, the time of the weekly sync meetings has become absurd. I have meetings at 7am which are fine, but then meetings at 10:30pm, 11:30pm on Friday nights, and so on. I had mentioned to my manager that while I'm fine with waking up early for meetings, my limit in the evenings is 7pm because I take a language course, and on Fridays I simply want to spend time with my partner and/or friends.

The pay is absolutely terrible and way below what I should be earning, so I have no plans on making extra efforts like being online from 7am till 12am... how can I reinforce boundaries, when they are clearly not respected?

In 3 out of the last 5 jobs I had over the last 8 years, I got completely burnt out and started HATING the job after a year. It makes me wanna quit so badly, and I start looking for jobs, applying, etc. I feel i'm always looking for a job.

Am I the problem? has anyone have tips on how to cope with this?

The hate around Arabs/Muslims in Europe is insane. People will claim is their religion being too different, people fearing they'll commit terrorist attacks, rapes, crimes, etc etc.

As a Latin American woman living in Europe for many years now, I can't understand why nobody makes the same claims about gipsy communities and eastern europeans. I've encountered many situations in which I felt insecure/threatened/abused by gipsies and drunk eastern europeans, but that rarely happened to me with Arabs or Muslims.

I'm not trying to generalize and say that no Arab/Muslim commits crimes, but i'm curious about the double standard.

Hello everyone! I've been very active for a while now in a the sub r/IWantOut and I'm surprised by the increment in the amount of posts by transgender people wanting to leave Saudi Arabia. The reasons are obvious of course, but I'm wondering if there's something that changed in the last months, since in previous years I haven't seen this amount of posts by a specific nationality.

Also, I noticed that in general, posts of trans people trying to escape the Middle East are mostly from Egypt and Saudi. Again, obvious reasons, but there are a lot of other Middle Eastern countries with the same terrible conditions for the transgender community, and it feels we don't hear that much about them.

I would love your insights and if you have, some resources to read more about the trans community in the Middle East. Thanks in advance <3

I've been feeling lately so many women claim they are an absolute Samantha, when in reality i feel it's more a wish they have than anything else. I noticed many friends and women i met recently claim they're a Samantha because they're open about sex and fucked 17 guys in their early 20s. Like the other characters, like Miranda particularly, haven't fucked with 35 guys also. I feel these people didn't understand Samantha at all under the superficial level.

To me, Samantha is above anything, a girls girl. She is the most loyal, honest friend you'd ever have. She never judges. She's the friend who's not afraid to say what she has to say at ANY time, and she has a way of saying that won't bother you because she's honest. She's bold and doesn't give a fuck. She cares very little what others think of her. It's absolutely not about the sex, that's just a small part of who she really is.

And, truth be told, I haven't met an insane amount of women like that, but of course a lot of us would love to be more like her. We all should be more than her! But claiming you're one of them just because you have a lot of sex it's so stupid to me.

This got triggered recently by a friend of mine who goes around always swearing she's a Samantha, and I know the only Samantha thing she has is having slept with some guys in her youth and be open about it. But she'd never be as bold as saying everything she thinks, and she refuses to acknowledge she cares way too much about what people think of her. And I guess it just pisses me off that so many people just see the surface of Samantha.

What are your thoughts? am I being influenced on this thought by how my friend is, or do you also notice this?

My partner loves comedy shows and he really wants to go to one in Berlin. I’m not experienced in it, but i would like to get us tickets to go, ideally next weekend. Which are some good comedy shows in English? ideally experienced, not just beginner stand up.

Thanks!

Adding to the cascade of rants from the heatwave, I do get that getting an AC everywhere for only two weeks a year of real heat is not worth it, but how come public transport have no AC? Are there any reasons? The ubahn and sbahn are possibly the worst places to be these days, yet we all need to commute. It's totally unbearable. Please use deodorant!

anyone else experiencing electricity outage in Wilmersdorf? I wanna check whether is only our building or beyond

Ciao, I'm currently visiting Rome and it really surprised me the amount of American tourists in the city. I feel everywhere I go, the majority of people are Americans. It's my first time in Rome, but I've traveled quite a lot in Europe and this has never been the case. Has it always been like this or is it a new "phenomenon"?

Over the last year I have somehow been very successful at finding apartments for myself and for friends. To give you an example, I recently looked for an apartment for myself, sent my documents to 6 of the apartments I went to see and got an offer for 5 of them. Relevant considering I'm a non-EU citizen, no blue card, and my job is on the lower income end. I have found apartments for several friends also.

I know there are services offering help to find an apartment but they are very pricy, and considering how critical the housing situation is in Berlin, and that some people simply don't have the time to put the time and effort it involves to find a house, I thought what if I start offering such a service but for a low amount of money (let's say, 100 to 300 euros, depending on the apartment budget) so people could actually afford it. I would help people find options online, apply for them, go to the viewing with them, and helping prepare their documents. Would you pay for such a service? Maybe i'm being delusional, but I see how much people struggle and I'd like to help, but of course for a price, as it takes so much time :)

First of all, I want to clarify that this post is not meant to offend anyone, I'm just trying to understand turkish people better, as I have a lot of Turkish acquaintances and friends, and I like the country so much.

I live in Germany, and I've been to Turkey multiple times in my life, so I know quite an amount of turks. Some of them are very close friends of mine. One thing that I notice in 99% of the turks I met (particularly those who are living in the EU), is how badly they want others to see them as anything but Middle Eastern, and ideally, connect them to the idea of Europe.

A lot of racists comments towards MENA people, Asians, etc., when technically... your country is mainly geographically in Asia, and culturally and socially, you're way more similar to MENA countries than Europe. In addition, I noticed so many turks living in Germany, with a background of Muslim families, wanting to convert to christianity. Do turks believe that if one become christian, one would be consider more European?

On a more extremist end, some friends have even told me that they believe Turkey should be split in two: the Muslim part on the one hand, and the "European" on the other, because these groups are simply "too different".

From my perspective, this is truly sad for me for two reasons. One, because nobody, in any region of the world, considers Turkish people to be European on any level (culturally, religiously, socially, etc.). Secondly, you have such a beautiful country, culture, history, food, and I could continue forever. Why can't so many of you not be proud of it and try so bad to be something else? Why wanting to be European or Christian when there's so many rich things in your background?

I thought many times it could be an insecurity of certain people I met, but the more turks I meet, the more I see it as a trend. I can't help but feeling bad for these people, and I'm trying to understand the thinking behind. Would appreciate your inputs!

I found an apartment I love close to Alt-Mariendorf ubahn station, but I'm a bit concerned about the area. I always lived very close to the chaos and city center (in Friedrichshain and Wilmersdorf), so the contrast is quite abrupt. The issue is that I've had different issues with old buildings, so I'm looking for something newly built, which is quite hard to find in zone A without having to selling a kidney to pay for rent.

I'm in my late 20s, looking for an apartment where I'll settle down and where I'd move in with my partner soon. I'm mainly concerned about not having at least one nice coffee shop to go with my laptop, or it being a bit scary going back home at night as there's usually very few people walking around (of course compared to the areas I lived in). The good thing is that its pretty close to some of my friends who live in Mariendorf and Steglitz.. If you live there, do you like it? Would you move in there again? Do you feel safe? Thanks in advance!

I found an apartment I love close to Alt-Mariendorf ubahn station, but I'm a bit concerned about the area. I always lived very close to the chaos and city center (in Friedrichshain and Wilmersdorf), so the contrast is quite abrupt. The issue is that I've had different issues with old buildings, so I'm looking for something newly built, which is quite hard to find in zone A without having to selling a kidney to pay for rent.

I'm in my late 20s, looking for an apartment where I'll settle down and where I'd move in with my partner soon. I'm mainly concerned about not having at least one nice coffee shop to go with my laptop, or it being a bit scary going back home at night as there's usually very few people walking around (of course compared to the areas I lived in). The good thing is that its pretty close to some of my friends who live in Mariendorf and Steglitz.. If you live there, do you like it? Would you move in there again? Do you feel safe? Thanks in advance!

So I have started the journey of finding a psychologist in Berlin. Ideally in English or Spanish, as I don't feel my German skills are ready to undergo therapy. Which makes it even more complicated. I got two lovely appointments with therapists who assessed which type of therapy should I get, and who guided me through the process of how to find a psychologist, as they sadly don't have capacity to take me. I know how hard it is, so I wanted to ask how long it took for you to find a therapist in the city. Thanks in advance! 😄