u/Confident_Fish5512

First things first you have to actually convince yourself that you want and need to move on. Cuz if you don’t make that decision first nothing else is going to work.

You also need to know the difference between moving on and healing!
Now i know everytime you talk to someone about the breakup the first thing they say is ; just move on , let go bro/sis. Im not gonna say that to you because i know how hard it is you loved this person with your whole heart it’s not that easy to just let go.

But once you’ve decided to move on, the first thing i want you to do is think about the bad things that happened in the relationship, when you’re struggling to let go it’s all because you’re only thinking about the cute shiny part of it all. No! I want you to think about the whole thing,grieve ( i don’t care if you’re done grieving START AGAIN) .

Write down every single thing that hurt you that they did. ( now once again i don’t care if it wasn’t logical for you to be hurt, if it didn’t make sense, if what they did wasn’t intentional) what matters is that you were HURT!
After writing down everything look at the paper, you’re gonna realize your soulmate, your future husband/wife, your dream Love would never do such thing to you or to others!
And look at them clearly for a second.. do you see? They’re not actually that kind, they’re not that smart, they’re not considerate, they’re not much of a gentleman, they’re not even that cute!.

Now why did you see them like that? It was YOUR energy that made them that good, it was YOUR love that made you think of them as such a great person! You were pouring yourself into them bit by bit , which made them a better person while making you feel worse and weaker.
Now comes the worst part; admitting and realizing that they’re no longer gonna be in your life. I know it hurts but don’t avoid it! It’s a part of the process ( the hardest part imo) but you will get through it by taking your energy and your love back and pouring it back into yourself!

You’re not alone , you matter, i love you.

Hello everyone, im a 20 year old student living in sulaymaniah, ever since i lost my father a couple years ago i’ve felt a strong desire to give time and care and companionship to elderly people and i would love to find a way to sit with them talk to them and help them out or just keep them company.
I know structured eldery care facilities aren’t as common here and i definitely don’t want to just walk up to strangers in public.
Does anyone know of charities or youth groups in sulaymaniah that organize visits or support for elders? And also how the public care home in sulaymaniah ( khanay basalachuan ) handles informal volunteers or visitors?
So any advice on how to get started safely and respectfully?
Thank you

Hey im looking to meet a new friend or two in sulaymaniah aged 20-23.
My circle is small and close knit so im looking for low drama, non judgmental and def not very male centered girlies.
The main requirement? Having cool non strict parents so making plans isn’t a whole negotiation process every single time.
So if you’re in suly or honestly even if you’re in erbil and can come to suly every now and them and want a new friend hit me up!
💕

Hey everyone
Im about to start my second year at UOS university of sulaymaniah and honestly im feeling so depressed and anxious about going back because of how badly i got dress coded last year. I really need some advice or to know if anyone else has dealt with this.
My style is academic/girly (blazers, ties, pleated student looking skirts, and thick winter tights with fleece inside) i don’t wear heavy makeup and im pretty skinny so nothing i wear is tight or (party style) meanwhile our uni has no official dress code or uniform girls literally wear high heels and boys wear whatever.

Despite dressing formally, i got targeted twice during my exams last semester.
First an older female teacher held my arm after an exam and told me “ honey don’t wear skirts to exam these poor boys wear all distracted by your legs” ( again i was wearing thick black tights) the next day i wore baggy jeans to avoid trouble and the department head ( again female) pulled me aside during my final exam which stressed me out so bad i panicked and forgot everything and couldn’t finish my test properly.
I have major anxiety from my previous school where i was singled out and forced to wash my face because they thought i was wearing makeup i was coded for 5 years straight for my natural hair that they wanted me to dye my hair black because apparently my natural hair ( which is light brunette) was not very natural looking i had to show them my old pictures were i was a child to prove them that it is my natural hair. Anyway i do not wanna go through this targeting at uni again i literally get depressed thinking about having to change my entire identity just to go to classes.

Has anyone else at UOS or other unis in Kurdistan dealt with this? How do you handle members who project their old school mindset onto you? Are there actual written rules i can look up or is it just up to the mood of the department head?
Any advice on how to handle this for the upcoming winter semester would mean world thank you.

( again what i was wearing was not revealing at all and i never wear skirts without tights)

Hey everyone
Im about to start my second year at UOS university of sulaymaniah and honestly im feeling so depressed and anxious about going back because of how badly i got dress coded last year. I really need some advice or to know if anyone else has dealt with this.
My style is academic/girly (blazers, ties, pleated student looking skirts, and thick winter tights with fleece inside) i don’t wear heavy makeup and im pretty skinny so nothing i wear is tight or (party style) meanwhile our uni has no official dress code or uniform girls literally wear high heels and boys wear whatever.

Despite dressing formally, i got targeted twice during my exams last semester.
First an older female teacher held my arm after an exam and told me “ honey don’t wear skirts to exam these poor boys wear all distracted by your legs” ( again i was wearing thick black tights) the next day i wore baggy jeans to avoid trouble and the department head ( again female) pulled me aside during my final exam which stressed me out so bad i panicked and forgot everything and couldn’t finish my test properly.
I have major anxiety from my previous school where i was singled out and forced to wash my face because they thought i was wearing makeup i was coded for 5 years straight for my natural hair that they wanted me to dye my hair black because apparently my natural hair ( which is light brunette) was not very natural looking i had to show them my old pictures were i was a child to prove them that it is my natural hair. Anyway i do not wanna go through this targeting at uni again i literally get depressed thinking about having to change my entire identity just to go to classes.

Has anyone else at UOS or other unis in Kurdistan dealt with this? How do you handle members who project their old school mindset onto you? Are there actual written rules i can look up or is it just up to the mood of the department head?
Any advice on how to handle this for the upcoming winter semester would mean world thank you.

( again what i was wearing was not revealing at all and i never wear skirts without tights)

Hey everyone
Im about to start my second year at UOS university of sulaymaniah and honestly im feeling so depressed and anxious about going back because of how badly i got dress coded last year. I really need some advice or to know if anyone else has dealt with this.
My style is academic/girly (blazers, ties, pleated student looking skirts, and thick winter tights with fleece inside) i don’t wear heavy makeup and im pretty skinny so nothing i wear is tight or (party style) meanwhile our uni has no official dress code or uniform girls literally wear high heels and boys wear whatever.

Despite dressing formally, i got targeted twice during my exams last semester.
First an older female teacher held my arm after an exam and told me “ honey don’t wear skirts to exam these poor boys wear all distracted by your legs” ( again i was wearing thick black tights) the next day i wore baggy jeans to avoid trouble and the department head ( again female) pulled me aside during my final exam which stressed me out so bad i panicked and forgot everything and couldn’t finish my test properly.
I have major anxiety from my previous school where i was singled out and forced to wash my face because they thought i was wearing makeup i was coded for 5 years straight for my natural hair that they wanted me to dye my hair black because apparently my natural hair ( which is light brunette) was not very natural looking i had to show them my old pictures were i was a child to prove them that it is my natural hair. Anyway i do not wanna go through this targeting at uni again i literally get depressed thinking about having to change my entire identity just to go to classes.

Has anyone else at UOS or other unis in Kurdistan dealt with this? How do you handle members who project their old school mindset onto you? Are there actual written rules i can look up or is it just up to the mood of the department head?
Any advice on how to handle this for the upcoming winter semester would mean world thank you.

( again what i was wearing was not revealing at all and i never wear skirts without tights)