u/Connect-Deal-5502

Everywhere I go I have plenty of people I talk to and spend time with. At work, university or student associations I'm never alone, people know me, we hang out together during breaks or sometimes after. But besides that there's no contact - no texting, never meeting outside of this mutual place (i mean we go to other places like cafes/bars sometimes after but it's just because we met at uni/work prior). When I go to the places mentioned I have so much people to talk to, am involved in all the plans and convos but outside? Nothing. I have no one to text, no one to go anywhere with, literally no one. I don't remember the last time I had plans with someone. I tried to invite people, give ideas or even specify dates but everyone is so busy with their friends/partners or replies "great idea, we should" but the plans never come into reality. I feel like everyone my age has a solid group and doesn't care about making new friends.

And it's such a vicious circle - I want to make friends - people don't want to get closer bc feel fulfilled with who they already have - I stay alone and try with different people - some potential friends reject me because I have no friends so I must be a walking red flag. And my reason is purely I had severe social anxiety until 20yo so started talking to people more just some time ago...

Also - I'm bad at texting, like feel like I'm bothering someone's free time as idk if they want to chat with me. When we meet in person it's obvious we won't sit in silence and the topics to talk come easily. But texting? I don't know how to start. I prefer to meet in person and have so many ideas of what to do, where to go etc. but have no one to go with.

Any ideas? How would you take those work/uni friendships outside of the mutual place? How do I start chatting with those people online?

(sorry for mistakes, english isn't my first language)

Recently I met a guy we've already went on one date. Don't want to focus on the whole thing, as I see both things I like and those I don't like in him but decided to give it at least one more date to see. The case is I have very little experience dating and don't know if this is normal. Irl he is much more open and flirty than while texting. From the very start he was very touchy, like not in a sexual manner but grabbing my hand or leaning close (many times) and kissing for goodbye. The topic of physical co tact or sex was never mentioned so far tho.

I haven't experienced anything like that before, my previous relationship was the complete opposite - lack of physical contact, going very slow and both of us being very anxious about that sphere. Here maybe it's normal but I fear he really might just want to use me or whatever. I know both sides of the spectrum are bad (no/too much touch) but I really don't know if I should be concerned? What do you think?