u/Conscious-Leg408

i (20f) have scars covering my left arm and some are very visible on my forearm and i haven’t been able to wear clothes with short sleeves because im so scared of people staring at me

i got groomed and sexually harassed by older men online when i was 16 and that kinda adds to the feeling of being unlovable because i haven’t had any guys

i’m just turned 20 now and i feel so old and almost like i’m undesirable

i feel like guys my age could never like me because of my scars and the way my body looks
i’m 5 foot tall dont have any curves and slightly broad shoulders and i have those stupid scars on my left arm AND i’m mentally ill

i’ve also been comparing myself to my best friend because she has a good boyfriend that really loves and cares for her, and she also has a very nice body and a very nice personality
i’m so happy for her but i can’t help but be jealous of her because while i was struggling with my body image on my 17th birthday
he got her a 1000 dollar tiffany necklace for her 17th birthday
a few months ago she called me and told me about how she finally met him for valentines day since they’ve been online dating since they were 14 and 15
and she just kept telling me how much he loved her and stuff
and i am SO jealous because i know i might never find someone like that because again i’m underweight with no curves and i’m short and nothing like her

also this is just a huge insecurity thing but we both play the same dating simulator and we like the same character and i always think that if that character were real he would immediately pick her and wouldn’t even look at me

i’m starting my first fractional laser session next week but i can’t help but wonder if the scars are going to fade completely or they’ll still be visible

i have light scars on my left arm but a few bumpy ones and three big bumpy scars on my forearm and i’ve regretted it ever since and i hope those scars could go away completely

i genuinely hope they all fade away with the sessions but i’m so scared that they might not fade and i might be stuck with scars for the rest of my life

i’m scared i might be considered damaged goods because of them

i’m scared no one will like me because of them

i’m praying and hoping that they will all fade and won’t be visible anymore

I (20f) have sh scars that cover my left arm, and l'll be starting my first fractional laser session next week to
make them less visible.

One issue about getting laser for scar removal is that it's a bit unpredictable so my scars might not be less visible and they might stay the same.

If the treatment doesn't go as planned should I tell my future partner about my scars before we start dating or after we start dating?

I don't want to hide something like that from them but at the same time I wouldn't want to make them uncomfortable.