u/Conscious_Crab_7192

I gave up social media, mainly TikTok and Instagram in February because I realised I was witnessing more racism online than I was experiencing offline.

Since deleting those apps, I’ve done more volunteering, more reading, and I’ve started calling and texting my friends more often because it’s now the main way I keep up with what’s going on in their lives.

It’s really noticeable once you step away from social media that the people around me who seem the most fearful and irritable also tend to spend the most time on it.

I think this might be my last month on Reddit. There’s so much good in the world, but if you stay online too long, you start becoming too afraid to actually live in the real world.

20 Things I love about being a woman that can love another woman

1. Holding hands interlocked through a crowd, down a street, in a restaurant, at the movies, at home, in the taxi.
2. Kisses on soft lips with no moustache or otherwise to tickle you. Soft skin. The lipstick/ lip gloss smug when you've made out. 🔥
3. Touch from a person that wasn't taught for long periods of their adolescence that it not 'manly' to be affectionate, that touch was only for fighting or to lead to something or for relatives. To touch someone that just wants to hold you.
4. The perfumes and all the candles! Nice smelling body, car and home!
5. The new free collection of shoes, coats, belts and jewellery (if she is the same size and into those sorts of things).
6. The LGBTIA spaces+
7. Questioning gender norms and making friends who all do the same.
8. Breaking gender norms: Who ever is good at something will use their skills without making the other person feel bad because it doesn't fit to some predefined gender role.
9. RECIPROCITY as the default. No being called nags for wanting equality! ❤️
10. To come home to a woman.
11. To wake up next to a beautiful woman.
12. To come out the bath to a fully made brunch every Saturday (just because).
13. To be able to buy her flowers every week (just because).
14. To have very pleasurable, safe, respectful, loving or fun or adventurous sex.
15. To be able to be your authentic self and someone that loves feminist lit as much as you do because obviously women should be equal. 😂
16. To watch all your favourite coming off age LGBTIA movies and shows.
17. The way she gets excited when she talks about all her favourite things.
18. Getting to listen to her. 😄
19. Realising no matter how much of a struggle coming out was it's 1000% worth it because today you get to be with her and let the world know.
20. To be able to one day marry a woman. 😃

Bonus: To actually like cis het men more. When men are just passing by with no pre-proposed role they need to fill into i.e. future husband. You can just get to know them. You like some and become friends and when you don't. you won't.