u/Conscious_Test4436

SOOooooooooo, I'm not sure if I even really want to post here, the thought of putting myself out to internet strangers is a bit scary!

But I am wondering, are there men out there, who are genuine, looking for something serious ( eventually - no rush - but just not looking for casual/wasting each others time)

Like, real romance, actual love, that is built slowly & healthily..

I have a busy life, in the sense of I still have things I need to build for myself, I've taken 2 years since my last relationship to just completely focus on myself,

I am genuinely happy with my life, and don't feel like a relationship is a NEED,

and yet - I would LOVE, to meet someone who is on a similar level,

I'd love to meet someone who's physically fit (within reason like) - ie wants to do fun/active things with me!

I love being active/am quite playful, and am starting to get a bit more serious re physical training - nothing crazy, mainly for the love of movement and wanting to build on that,

I love dancing/music/various outdoor activities,

I'd love to meet the kind of person who'd love to do some naturey outdoorsy adventurey dates with me - like a hike / someone to go on runs with, just generally a relationship where people cheer eachother on, on good and bad days, but who also have their own lives/stuff going on,

I have gone on some dates, and met lovely people, but have just not found someone right just yet

the main things I really appreciate is - someone who's open minded, emotionally intelligent, active/fit/playful/motivated / kind - and someone who is looking for - open to having a monogamous committed - relationship - down the line, if it worked out,

I value deep connection/trust built over time/taking things slowly

also someone who loves animals/nature, or is generally passionate/nerdy about something in their life,

I've given up on the apps, and also probably don't spend enough time in any environment where I'd meet men? I go to the gym - but like to be in my own space when I'm there

I don't really drink - but I do love a good boogie,

So yeah, any romantically inclined emotionally intelligent active playful men in the west?

realistically : 28-40 age range

Hi everyone - lovely people - my favorite people in the world (fellow audhders)

I have taken some time off due to burn out

I really don't want to feel like a bum - actually want to be productive - make the most of this time

as self - esteem wise - I just really need that - some success/small wins etc

any tips for routine/productivity whilst off?

I have a gym membership it really helps my confidence but am a bit afraid of being seen there - but also kind of don't want that to stop me - encouragement welcome

main priority - is coursework and study that I am massively behind on

maybe some organisation in the house ( but I know this is a trap and something ill hyperfocus on instead of study)

I was supposed to go on a long retreat in a few days but think ill need to cancel as I cant justify to myself neglecting study for 20 days :( and also all of the socialising (albeit v nourishing and in nature) Im not sure if itd be the best thing right now - would feel like escape .. which feels irresponsible

THANK YOU