u/Consistent_Hurry452

My girlfriend has diagnosed OCD and anxiety. One of the main ways it’s showing up right now is constant relationship doubts — she’ll suddenly decide I’m cheating on her, that I don’t love her anymore, or that something is fundamentally wrong with us. She puts it on me and we end up arguing/defending.
The worst part is there’s basically no break. We can have a long, connected, hour-and-a-half conversation where we talk through everything and it actually feels good and resolved… and then literally the very next thing she says brings the same doubt or accusation right back up. I’m immediately back on defense again. It’s not even “later that day” — it’s right after the conversation ends.
I’ve been trying to stop feeding the reassurance loop because I know it usually makes ROCD worse. So sometimes I’ll say something like “I love you and I’ve already reassured you about this a bunch today. I’m not going to keep going over it because it’s not actually helping.” The problem is she then often flips it and tells me I’m not being nice enough, that I’m being defensive, or that I don’t care about how she’s feeling — even though I just spent a long time reassuring and talking with her.
It feels completely impossible. Reassure too much and the cycle just continues and gets stronger. Try to set any kind of boundary and suddenly I’m the asshole. I’m getting really drained by this. I work full time as a line cook and I’m in school, and this is eating up so much mental energy that I’m starting to feel pretty depleted and hopeless about it.
I still love her and I want to support her in a way that’s actually helpful instead of just enabling the OCD, but I don’t know how to do that without this constant back-and-forth destroying both of us

Found this on a walk, not going to eat it just thought it was cool

Hey just wanted to share a strain my friend made and let me grow out

Help with reassurance loops

Does anyone know where to find Lanmaoa asiatica

ISO Lanmaoa asiatica