u/Consistent_Rager

I (31 f) have been out as ftm since summer of 2024 and on t since September of the same year. Last year I went through a relationship and breakup that drastically altered my worldview and perspective of myself and I've been doing a lot of internal work to correct certain behaviors/mindsets as a result. I've also been repairing my relationship with my higher power for a few years and that has really amped up in the last few months to the point that I have returned to my family's faith after reconciling with them in February of this year.

I want to be clear that while my family & religion don't believe transition is "right", my family and community/work associates have all been kind and accommodating toward me in how I've been identifying and this conflict I'm having is purely internal/of my own volition.

Here are my main considerations for potentially detransitioning:

\- my faith is important to me and I do hold the belief that we are created the way we are for a reason. I was made female for a purpose and this isn't something I should run away from

\- I am a csa/ repeat SA and abuse survivor & I have strong reasons to believe that this coupled with bullying around my masculine interests and masc associated personality traits (I was raised middle class the rural southern US) are the primary sources of my gender dysphoria. I associate womanhood and being treated/seen as female with a general lack of autonomy and safety. I feel safer identifying and being treated like a man.

\- I want to get married again and am attracted to men.

\- I don't want to be on medication for the rest of my life or deal with the health risks involved in long term HRT usage or go through the various, very expensive surgical procedures that would be required to pass.

\- I want to accept all of myself as I am, including my body. As I mentioned above. I am very suspicious that my dysphoria is a trauma response, and if that's true then choosing to transition would be an escape route from doing the work of healing the issues I have with my body and womanhood.

Here are some reasons I am really scared to get off T, and detransition in general:

\- I have a sports injury that is severely impacted by the occurrence of my menstrual cycle and I don't want to go back to living with that - I should mention here that my faith does not approve of any form of birth control, and I also have a migraine condition that makes it dangerous for me to be on hormonal BC anyway. But more or less I don't want to have a period.

\- I really enjoy the added muscle strength I've gotten from T and I know from experience that it'll be much harder to maintain without it.

\- working through my triggers is going to be hard as hell and I'm scared.

\- prior to transition I was very hypersexual and hyper feminine. I hated this but it's such a strong trauma response that when I think about detrans I immediately associate womanhood with these behaviors and I am afraid of slipping back into them. I know that masculine women exist. I know that women aren't inherently hypersexual. just don't know how to give myself permission to exist without putting on some kind of mask. But the the more I've prayed and spent time alone with myself (not inside of an extremely insular queer community which I was a part of before I moved back to my home state) the more I feel I've traded one mask for another.

I don't know how to end this post, but I appreciate any heartfelt responses. Suggestions and personal experience shares are appreciated.

What is the statistical likelihood that I will retransition later if I choose to detransition now?

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Tentatively approaching detransition 2 years into HRT