u/Constant_Revenue6105

I'm not pregnant anymore, I gave birth 17 days ago but this sub was always supportive and also this problem started during pregnancy so I thought maybe someone has some advice to offer.

I want to start by saying that my husband is very supportive and tries his best which helps a lot, but I lack women's company and presence in my life.

I have girlfriends but only one of them is a mom. However, her daughter is almost 6 so she has been out of the newborn trenches for a while. The others check up on me and we talk but there are a lot of things they simply can't understand (which is normal, I also couldn't before getting pregnant).

I have a good relationship with my MIL, but we are not that close. I was close with my mother but distanced myself because of her behaviour. I don't have sister and all of my cousins are older so we never got the chance to form close relationship.

Through the entire pregnancy and those 17 days the only person I have had an honest conversation is my husband. And I really miss having a female figure to text at 3am while the baby is on my boob and my mind is racing.

My question is has anyone been in the same situation? How did you cope? Is there some place to meet new moms? Any other resources?

I just gave birth 10 days ago and my mother decided that she is coming to stay with us for 6 weeks this summer.

She is a teacher and she gets 6 weeks off. She didn't ask, she literally just informed me.

We live in a one bedroom apartment and my husband works from home so it's already crowded. Also the last time she visited she rearranged the whole apartment when no one was home. I will have to babysit her all day so she won't do it again. And I don't have the energy or will to do it.

She has a history of deciding things for me and acting like I'm not an adult. She is also extremely controlling. Last time I visited she literally lectured me for days about the correct way of drinking water (no, I'm not joking, I wish I was).

So, I don't want her to stay with us for 6 weeks because of all of this. The question is how do I tell her? I have extreme fear of confrontation. Do I say it directly? Come up with an excuse?