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We are doing secret santa and I ended up getting one of the few male coworkers I have. We are close, we talk all the time and I know what he liked but I feel lost on what to actually get him. Can anyone give me some ideas??

26 male, he loves star wars, anime, collects comic books and funko pops, enjoys watching movies and going to the movies, is kinda of introverted.. worst come to worst, I will just get him some kind of gift card but I wanted to get him something more personal (gift giving is my love language) and it’s a $30 limit

I have been considering leaving my fiancé for the past couple years, but tbh I just haven’t had the balls to do it. I try to tell myself I’m being dramatic or impulsive and push any doubt I have to the side but it always comes back. He’s a great guy, a great father to our son, I just feel as though we are on different paths and have out grown each other. (Been together 8 years and got together when we were 18 and 20).
My issue is, I just don’t know if I can afford it. Our current lease is up in February so that’s probably when I would do it, as I think it would be the easiest transition. I’m okay living paycheck to paycheck as long as I’m still providing everything my son would need. I make around $3,800 monthly (gross so way less after taxes) but have a car payment and a few credit cards with some balances and would love to get some advice on how I should prepare, I.e. paying off debt and setting myself up for success.
Any tips, tricks, words of advice? Encouragement or even criticism?? Idk. I’m so nervous. I don’t even feel confident in my decision enough to bring it up to him yet. 😭

My husband and I have been together 8 years now and from day one, his step dad has consistently made inappropriate jokes/comments to be. Started off as making comments about my boobs, to making jokes about our sex life, to just plain and simple sexual jokes that just aren’t funny.
Twice tonight, at our monthly family dinner, he took advantage of being alone with me to repeat the same “you are what you eat” joke after someone called him a p*ssy. He had to have noticed how uncomfortable it made me.. I literally walked away the first time.
Every time we have said something to my MIL about it she just says “oh he’s just joking he means well” and just defends him. I’m just so tired of it, I hate going over there but for this reason or that, we “have to”. Half the family feels this way about it and the people pleaser in me doesn’t want to cause a scene or hurt his feelings.. idk I’m just over it.

We have been together 8 years and have a 6 yo son.

I’m getting closer to 30 and I’ve always said id be done with kids by then. I’ve been talking about maybe having another and he is dead set on being one and done. (We didn’t talk about kids before I got pregnant because we were young and it was unexpected). I understand not wanting to start all over again, but I can’t shake the feeling I’ll regret not having another when I’m older and hold resentment. (I’ve already had one abortion that he convinced me to get and I still to this day struggle with that).

I’ve always wanted to buy a house and he has no desire to. It’s always been a goal of mine and he has no interest in even entertaining the idea. He’s been working the same job (working for his dad) for 7 years now, getting paid in cash, and hasn’t filed taxes once. I’ve mentioned every year he just needs to claim his income and we can pay whatever he owes but he doesn’t want to. Until he does, even if he did want to get a house, we can’t because I don’t make enough to get approved for a home on my own.

We’ve been engaged for 3 years and I refuse to get married until he fixed his income/taxes. I told him he has until I’m 30 to figure it out and that still hasn’t lit a fire under him. At this point, I don’t know if I want to get married anymore. I practically had to beg him to propose for him to do it.

I just feel like every goal or dream I’ve ever had, isn’t going to happen if we stay together. But I also don’t want to just throw away 8 years.. I’m just so torn. At what point do you stop compromising and put what YOU want first? I don’t want my son to deal with split parents but what if staying together won’t give him the best life possible?

When replacing toilet paper, does it go over or under??

TW:
I just wanna vent without someone trying to “one up me” or turn me talking about my trauma into something about them.. my entire life has been traumatic and I’m so tired of not being able to talk about it. So ya know what, here’s my dump.
My dad was an absent alcoholic and died a few years ago, and I was the emergency contact and POA so I had to fly half way across the country to take him off life support. I have more bad memories of him than I do good.
I got pregnant at 16 and my son was born with cancer and he passed away when I was 17, at just 9 months old.
I then went through a 5 year abusive relationship and completely lost myself. He would SA me and then belittle me and I lost all self confidence.
I had an abortion 5 years ago when my current son was only 6 mo, and literally not a single person knows about, and I hold so much resentment towards my fiancé for talking me into doing it.
I have gone through medication after medication because up until recently I was undiagnosed anxiety, OCD and bipolar. (Woohoo thanks for that dad!) it’s taken years to FINALLY feel “normal”.

Idk, I just needed to vent and be public with my feelings because I’m dying not being able to talk about it. 😭
I need a therapist and can’t get myself to commit to the appointment, ironic isn’t it???

I just wanna make friends yall I am lonely and just wanna chat 😩
I like metal concerts, reading, drawing.. I have a very dark and dry sense of humor and I’m extremely dependent on caffeine and nicotine lmao
DM me if you think we’d hit it off 😊😊