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I am 29F. I got married on 22 Nov 2024 which was arrange marriage.

After 1 month my husband started to abuse me and his family too.

They used to call me shameless, you come to my again and again .

Then his mother used to taunt me on small kitchen work .

You can't do anything . Evan younger girls than you do nice work you can't Evan make puranpoli.

His sisters used to taunt me they never treat me like their sister in low .

They didn't want me I got to know later when father in low clearly said that.

At that house they didn't allow me to speak . If I speak they used to say you used this word , you used that word and they were normal words. They used to say why did you ask us questions because once I asked mother In low that whose names are these which I am seeing on bike ? She said how can you ask me this question? I didn't understand what wrong I asked ? This small thing they made issues.

They used to collect such issues and told to my parents and the mediator who help in arranged Marriages.

Everyone used to say why did you ask questions? Why did you speak ?

And I was like speaking and asking simple question was a crime ? Why are they blaming me ?

Then when my husband snatched my phone he allowed me to talk with my parents only once in a day .

He made allegations for me saying she had ex bf so snatched her phone .

I was like is this a reason to snatch phone.

Then he didn't allow me to talk with my parents much.

He used record the talk of me and my parents and used to say put phone on speaker and speak in front of me .

Evan in such situation I was living there because Indian girls don't get divorce they tolerate anything for husband .

He used to not to give me any basic things like soap , face wash, Evan pads his mother used to give me pads which left by his sisters .

When I asked about getting me clothes his mother told his sister to brought her clothes I can Evan choose my own clothes his sister will choose my clothes she is married .

Once my parents came his sister said why your mother come here this women will not come here again .

My father left to come to meet me because he get tired after they listen their words and insult he has to face you daughter don't understand anything she can't cook she is like this she is like that.

Then I started writing my feeling . Then they started snatching whatever I used to wrote and they started showing this to my father see your daughter this about us . Then I started write and erase and tear it .

My father in low collected all teared papers and showed to my father see your daughter writes . She has a issue .

And my father also scold me and told me never write again.

I tolerated this too .

I got pregnant and my husband didn't care for me he was unhappy for pregnancy no one cares . He didn't Evan did a single check up .

My father took me for check after 2 and half months and it was unembryogenic gestation.

It miscarried.

Then I lived only one month with him after miscarriage. I came for rechechup to my family and he abandoned me .

I tried to save the marriage after that too . Evan after I got to know he was searching for other girls for marry .

Then I found no way to save the marriage I just went with flow and now after 1 year of abandoning he asked me mutual divorce .

Today I went to court for settlement and

He said he will just give me whatever my father has given gold to him in dawry.

He will give me the assets and gifts we gave at the time marriage.

I have no choice than settlement because now I have no father and my mother also don't earn and me too so I don't want lawyer fees burden so I am settling it after all there is some time I can restart after some time I will lost my that chance too .

Hi everyone,

I (29F) need advice regarding my situation.

My husband has been asking for divorce for the last 1.5 years, but he kept delaying everything. Because of this, I was left in a stuck situation for a long time.

Now, he has suddenly agreed to divorce, but only under mutual consent.

The issue is:

He has not given me any clear reason for the divorce.

When I ask, he just says “you already know,” but refuses to explain or write it down.

He never comes in person and always sends his father or others to communicate.

He has only returned dowry items, but there is no discussion of alimony or any other support.

I feel like I have been pushed into a situation where I am forced to agree to mutual divorce because I don’t have the financial capacity to fight a long legal case.

It also feels like he delayed things intentionally so that I would eventually agree out of pressure.

I want to ask:

Is it normal or acceptable for someone to refuse giving a reason for divorce in writing?

Should I agree to mutual divorce in this situation?

What are my options if I cannot afford a long legal battle?

I feel stuck between wanting closure and wanting fairness.

Any advice or guidance would really help.

Thank you.

Today something serious happened.

After speaking up about what I went through, I faced violence at home.

My own mother kicked me in the chest and tried to hurt me.

This is not just a “family matter.”

This is abuse.

She insulted me and called me a slut.

When someone finally finds the courage to speak up, they should get support — not violence, silence, or blame.

I’m trying to process everything and also document what happened.

Right now, I just needed a space to share this.

If anyone here has gone through something similar or has advice on what to do next, I would really appreciate it.

I’ve recently saved some money and I’m thinking of starting a small business.

Not looking for “get rich quick” ideas — more like something practical and sustainable.

If you were starting today with a small budget,

what would you build and why?

Would love to hear real experiences or ideas.