u/Cool_Interaction_361

21F and partner 26M we have 2 children ages 1&3 together already living in temporary accommodation due to having to leave home because other family members was making it unsafe to live in….

I’m have very recently found out I’m pregnant and very unsure on what to do and how to feel,
Part of me knows that the timing isn’t the best and our financial situation hasn’t been the best and we are still trying to find our feet from helping my partner come out of debt and making life liveable again …
Then part of me thinks that we was in the same situation with our 2nd child and we managed to make it work for me and she fit in like she was always ment to be and I hate to think that I will be ending the life of a child when i have the love and time to give, because i had the love to give when i thought i didn’t and i had no idea what motherhood entailed and i dived deep head first into it blindsided, i now know what to expect and how to go about the small& big things,
If I can love my 2 babies, why would this baby be any different…
The only thing thats making me question the pregnancy is guilt for my 2babies i have already and my mental health and postpartum as I suffered really bad with my 2nd I don’t want to fall into a trap and the baby would be due around my oldest 4th birthday

Any help, advice or experiences would be greatly appreciated plz be kind 🤣

Hey Reddit,
I’m 21, and I’m feeling pretty frustrated with my mother-in-law. She seems to think I’m "abusing" her 26-year-old son because I don’t cater to him in the way she expects. Here are some specifics:
I don't always make his work lunch.
I don’t wake him up for work every morning.
When he puts our kids to bed and falls asleep himself, I wake him up if I know he’s asleep, but she calls him to check on him and sees him on the floor, which she seems to think is my fault.
She thinks I’m starving him even though he has full access to the fridge and cupboards (and doesn’t contribute financially).
Recently, she even handed my child to someone who had just come in from smoking, saying, “don’t worry, it was only one fag.”
Her behavior has worsened since I stood up for my family when her partner stumbled over our son in his bouncer while seemingly drunk. My children have never been around anyone drunk (I only drink occasionally when I'm not with them).
She thinks I’m taking her son away from her and often says things like, “he’s my son.” I genuinely want what’s best for my son. However, my partner tends to avoid discussing his family around me because he “doesn’t want the arguing,” yet he rarely speaks up when something upsetting is said.
We recently had an argument over her looking down at me as usual. He left my side to go stay at his mom’s, claiming he was “done.” He didn’t answer calls or texts, even when his son wanted to say goodnight. Now she thinks I’m controlling and that I’m making it all about me instead of considering him—she believes I want to create a rift between her and her son.
Additionally, she made some sort of promise with my partner, but he won’t tell me what it is. When he returned, she sent him a message saying something like, “So much for the promise we made,” and accused me of saying her to “f*** off” after she accused me of abusing him.
I feel like I’m being judged and undermined, and her constant interference is really affecting my relationship and my mental health. I just want to be able to support my partner without feeling like I’m doing everything wrong.
What should I do? How do I set boundaries without creating drama? Any advice would be appreciated!***