u/CopperHead49

Or is it just me? The hail we had earlier was insane.

I have no one else to rant to about this, so you’re all going to have to listen.

I have a friend, who I referred to as my best friend, but I have removed that title from her a while ago, considering that I haven’t actually physically seen her since she gave birth to her son a year and half ago. I will occasionally get a life update via text once every couple of months.

This was a friend who even lived with me, rent free so she wouldn’t be homeless. A friend who I removed her from an abusive situation. A friend who would do game nights, club nights, parties, cocktails, travels, dinners with. We were both child free. She always said she would never have kids.

Then she got married, and then they planned for a baby. I supported her as much as I could; baby showers gifts, an ear to cry on when she hated her pregnancy (it was so bad she had to go on antidepressants that were safe for pregnant people). Her baby was born and she told me that I made the right choice to never have kids. She highly regretted it.

Today, she told me that she’s pregnant again with another planned baby. I haven’t seen her once since she gave birth, and it’s not due to my lack of trying. I was genuinely thinking that we might get our friendship back a little since her kid is older now, but now I am grieving that I will most likely not see her again for a good few more years. (I still haven’t even met her baby.)

So I am sad, upset, and little angry. Yes, I am being selfish; I am grieving a friendship that has completely been lost.

Side note:

I also don’t understand the mentally of having a nightmare pregnancy and a nightmare baby (the baby never slept and is a screamer, and has various health problems.) so suddenly being like, “let’s have another one.” I am being biased as I am childfree and do not understand that mentally or even fathom bribing a child into this world. But ugh… I said congratulations and sat there in silence staring at that text message. The first message she sent me in 2 months. (She left me on read when I was giving her an update.)

So now I am concluding that this friendship is over. 😢

A friend on mine did a gender reveal. She said, “it’s going to be intimate, fun, and her sister only knows the gender.” Sounds normal, right?

Anyway, I get there. My friend has hired a hall, there is about 100 of us, and everything is decorated to the extreme. It took me a while to notice all the iPhones on stands, and ring lights everywhere among the decorations. (Balloon sculptures in blue and pink, blue and pink table decorations, blue and pink flower arch etc.)

Then what I can only call a surreal experience happened. My friend, basically curated this whole gender reveal for social media. There was games, like passing a ballon to each other without it popping, and even a whole dance moment, which was clearly rehearsed and choreographed. Every “game” and every moment was designed for the socials. Meanwhile I was sitting there thinking, why am I even here..

My friend would pause after each moment to check the recordings on each of the phones, to make sure everything was perfect. And to be fair to my friend, she ran her gender reveal like a military exercise. It was so incredible boring as a guest, watching this BTW.

FINALLY, after about 3 hours it was time to pop the gigantic balloon to reveal the gender. It’s a girl!! Pink powder everywhere. (Of course they filmed this for socials but they can only do this once.)

And while everyone in the room was happy and congratulating the couple, the smoke alarm goes off due to the powder. It’s super loud, and my friend just bursts into tears because her gender reveal is ruined. She screams at everyone to stop recording. The ceiling is really tall, and some guests are trying to climb on chairs and tables, desperately trying to fan away any powder. One of them falls and hurts themselves. Someone is calling the building management. Meanwhile this super loud alarm has been ringing for more than 30 mins. Guests are starting to leave, my friend is still hysterical and is getting clearly annoyed that people are leaving (she had more curated things to record apparently) and after I had my fill on the carnage, I left. So that was a very interesting afternoon on a Saturday.