u/Correct_Fox8058

If you find yourself feeling drained after soccer games due to other parents, you’re not alone. As a soccer parent myself, it pains me to hear these adults constantly berating kids on the sidelines. I really hate it. Just let kids be kids and they’ll find their flow, also be kind to other kids. Why are we putting someone’s kid down and making weird comments during a game?

I hate parents like that, and that’s why I keep my distance at all the events. Yet, I find it hard because I do want to be updated on all important things minus gossip, but it seems hard to do. Any thoughts?

just came back from a wedding & i've always been on the fence about marrying within the culture bc of a myriad of reasons but thinking about it ... but maybe i do want to break generational curses with you. maybe i do want to bring the diaspora together in our own way. maybe i do want to raise a alexander isak or lily yohannes with you. maybe i do want to build a tremendous life with you & pave the path for others. lol i'm just very excited about this epiphany i developed out of nowhere, but maybe just MAYBE if i can find the right one (who is progressive & ambitious), this will be worth bearing.

Hi everyone! I am a new clerk at a grocery retail store, and will soon be a tech in training (YAY)! However, I can’t help but feel I have had a hard time feeling comfortable with the job. I’m usually good at customer service, as I’ve had retail jobs for about two years and do well with people. But, ever since I started here and I’ve been thrown into the fire without training, my anxiety spikes because I care about accuracy and want to do my job right.

The one thing I hate as a recovering perfectionist is feeling needy, and my voice gets painfully low and I can’t even speak English (stutter so much and lose my trail of thought) when I ask for help because I get anxious. It’s impacting my performance too. Every time I observe other techs whenever there’s no one else in line to tend to, I listen to them talk and just ache to sound like them and use their same jargon and phrases.

I feel like I don’t know how to deescalate customers when they’re looking for scripts, heck, I can’t even answer the phones now because a vet technician said “just stay off phones, you’ve been here for what, just a few days?” Damn. I’ve been here for a few weeks, so yeah I can’t even answer phones according to her and she’s not lying because even the pharmacist said I can’t process refills, but I feel guilty every time the phone rings and everyone is in a frenzy doing their own things. It would be great if you all left me some advice, I really hope I’m not alone.

I would also love to take notes on what are some good phrases to use, and overall how to conduct myself during patient interactions. My natural go-to is to be friendly and empathize with them, but my coworkers operate differently and I don’t know if I’m supposed to act cold or just not talk much with them. I’m only a few weeks in, what are some milestones I should be achieving and how do I build rapport with my coworkers as they are a bit cliquey and even the manager hasn’t made an effort to include me … am I supposed to put myself out there and just interject or what? Thank you so much for your help with this lengthy rant, bless your hearts.

TLDR: I’m a very anxious clerk who was thrown into the fire since day one, not sure how to deescalate patients, how to conduct myself with patients as an outgoing person yet remain pro, and how to get myself acclimated to the new work environment. Am I supposed to be the one that takes initiative and interject in their conversations (coworkers)? Sometimes the questions I ask are repetitive. Some wisdom would help, especially on some jargon and key phrases I should keep in my toolkit and how to be resourceful.

I saw some really good ones and want to read them. They were in the multiple choice section lol. Like Minaret but I can’t find the one about the soldier who came back from home and was trying to find his way, but felt like a foreigner as he walked through his city and watched two men talking, I would LOVE to read it.

I see so many killings of Eritrean women by their husbands, too lazy to go on the rant but it’s ridiculous. In another light, mental health and wellbeing needs to be a topic of discourse because it’s still stigmatized in our community.