u/County-Stag

I'm so angry I could cry. I could actually just start punching walls and not stop.

I have sent a small fortune decorating our 3 bedroom flat, paint wallpaper, furniture, flooring right through - only for the kids to slowly destroy it all. I only started 6 weeks ago and so far the new £300 table has dents in the top of it, 2 drawer handles are broken on the eldest bits drawers, there a big chip/dent in the centre of the laminate floor in the boys room, there's scratches up the hall wall that looks like someone has run their fingernails up it, paint scraped off living room wall, tomato sauce up and down living room wall.

The kids are 16, 14, 10 and 8 so it's not even as if they're toddlers. And they don't care. I feel like Ive given up my life to provide for them and all they do is wreck everything.

The eldest 2 are my step kids, the younger 2 are mine. I just can't stand it any more. Take take take, want want want, but ask any of them to do anything - no!

The eldest boy has now shown me a pair of £110 trainers I bought him about 6 weeks ago and the sole is coming off. No respect for anything. His attitude is oh it's alright I'll just get a new pair.

The floor with the dentist in it has been down 1 WEEK.

I'm so angry I've told them I'm cancelling our holiday in July because none of them deserve it and I've told my partner as soon as she's in I'm either going out or going to bed before I absolutely explode.

I've spent a fortune and done all the work myself to just watch it get wrecked. The living room actually looked like a showroom the effort I put into it - but 2 weeks down the line and they've ruined it. Kids these days don't know their born and you can't discipline them coz the country has gone soft.

Actually just want to walk out and never come back!

I have received universal credit, housing benefit etc. for 10 years with my partner.

I recently inherited £53000 and obviously need to close my claim. When I declared the inheritance, they sent my partner an appointment to go in with all my personal bank statements and gave her about 3 days notice.

I have spoken to numerous people on the phone as well as leaving messages in the journal. I would prefer to take my statements in myself as they are personal and we would need more notice as they want statements for 4 different bank accounts. I don't drive so need to go 15 miles in opposite directions to obtain these. I work so would need to take a day off work to do this and another day off for the appointment. I need to give at least a weeks notice for a day off which I have told them but they continue to give me appointments within that time.

I have now requested to close the claim myself. My question is, If I just ignore them, close the claim and don't go in, what's the worst that could happen.

I haven't received any money I wasn't entitled to and quite frankly I'm sick of having to disappear at work to phone them and jump through hoops.

I have no problem showing them the evidence but why they need to see printed versions of 3 months of bank statements for 4 accounts, 2 of which I don't use, is beyond me. Surely they just need to see account balances and the inheritance going in?

I have also been advised on the phone I could upload as a pdf but on the journal told this wasn't acceptable.

So much hassle just to stop claiming money