u/CourtOfBats

My boyfriend, 28m, told me, 27f, to wait just a little longer. We recently had a talk, after many, that I need more help with the house, bills, needing him to initiate intimacy, that instead of a girlfriend, I feel like a maid, a mother, and a roommate, that his friends take priority and that I’m being taken advantage of. He assured me that it’s not true, that I am a priority and didn’t realize what is actions or lack their of was effecting me and apologized. He looked genuinely scared and told me he’s now scared that he might loose me and will do everything he can. Part of me thinks he got the wake up call he needed but another part of me is unsure. He says he just needs a little longer.

I know things don’t happen overnight and not over a month, but we’ve had talks like this many times and I have heard the same things before in the past year where the same issues have been unresolved and continue to be a problem. However, the last talk a week ago, I can see he was deeply shaken. I’m a patient woman but even I have my limits and I do genuinely love him and want this to work.

How long is too long? Things don’t happen overnight, but when should things start happening? The ball feels like it’s in his court, anything I should do or say? Any advice would be greatly appreciated

I think I have the basics down and need better quality glue/seal and clusters. But when I got to actually put them on, I get the first cluster on well but then when I go to put the second one next to the one I just put on, the first one falls out. Any advice and tips to prevent them from falling out? And best advice on brand such as glue/seal and clusters packs?

I want to say that I am fully aware that friends don’t have to hang out/talk all the time and that people get busy with work/life. But lately I’ve been really thinking about me and my “friends” and have been since my birthday last month as well as months on end of me trying and facing silence. I feel like I’m the only one who makes any effort into hanging out, texting, wishing a happy birthday or a holiday or reaching out if something seems to be upsetting them, etc but I get none of this in return. But as soon as we are in person, my friends apologize for not reaching out a much, that we still need to hang out and behave as friends should, etc and it makes me question if we are really friends or if we are only friends when we are face to face. Again I understand life gets in the way but to not take two seconds out of their day to wish me a happy birthday? It feels lonely, reiterates that it’s only one sided, and wonder if I should do myself a favor and just step back entirely? I’m torn between wanting to make a post, as silly as that might sound, that I no longer want to pour into cups that never pour into mine, or just going quietly if that makes sense. Any advice? Is it valid of what I’m feeling or just overthinking it?
Also my one friend, who doesn’t make me feel this way and believe we are truly friends, is having a birthday party. I want to go and be supportive and celebrate, but there is a slight fear that my “friends” will be there too. Of course I will be civil and respectful, but I just feel like it would be awkward for me, any advice on how to handle this as well?