Not sure if i am marrying the right person
Hi everyone,
I met this girl 1.5 years back through arrange marriage setup. We have similar education background, similar career and from the same city. In this time we have been trying to know each other better. And we both figured out that we both are poles apart. Our likings, the living style we want, our ideologies, fitness goals and even our energy. She is quite loud and i am a calm person. I don’t want kids in future but she is fond of kids. For my happiness, she tells me ok we won’t have kids but i know she wants them in future. She is very emotionally dependent on me but i am a practical person so there is a gap in expectations there as well. In starting she wanted to change me on how i am and we had a long discussion on just accepting each other’s personalities. She doesn’t change me now. She is in a hurry to marry as her all friends are married and only she is the single left. In this 1.5 years, we had a lot fights where i got to know she has anger issues but she controller it afterwards.
Now talking about the positives here: We have a very good friendship. We share things with each other without hesitation. She takes a lot of effort for this relationship and tells me that we both have to work on it. Loves me a lot. She is close to her family. I have never met someone taking so much efforts to stay with me.
We are getting married in 3 months now. But idk there is a fear in me that we both are just opposite and am i taking the right decision. I am very scared about this marriage. I know there is a cold feet everyone experienced but i think this is not cold feet. I genuinely am scared if she is the right person. Am i overthinking a lot? Can someone please advice here on what should be the right mindset here?
tl;dr met a girl through arrange marriage. Poles apart. Getting scared if i am making a right choice. Need advice