u/Crate-Dragon

As I approach my 34th level-up, I consider how hard it’s been to keep friends as a husband and father. The friendships I had before fell away as they didn’t seem to understand life with children, and the parents I’ve met through school and such, they’re not my kind of geeks.

If you’re into Star Wars or D&D and in the YYC area, let’s talk. No meetups required, but letting it become an option LATER is good.

It’s been hard since becoming a dad to make new friends. The people I did have don’t get the limitations of kids. And the parents I’ve met, well they’re not my kinda nerds.

I’m in YYC and I’d prefer local IRL friends but even good nerdy conversations are always welcome. I don’t care what your age is, but I can’t imagine holding meaningful conversations with people in different seasons of their life.

Star Wars was the closest thing I ever had to a father. Mine left as a child. So I read. I read a lot. Star Wars has always been a big piece of my life. I have 3 tattoos ffs.

I had recently finished a cosplay, I intended to go to a local convention with my kid, but due to issues listening and following directions we didn’t go. I won’t lie, that was a blow. What almost hurts more was my wife went all weekend instead of the one day, helping a friend at a booth.

So okay. I missed it and was sad. I’m a man. I can get over it right?

It was HARDER hearing my wife disparaging the attendees at the convention. The usual social judgments about convention goers and basement geeks. But it hurt because I AM those kind of people. And she didn’t even realize how much overlap I have with the people she was so openly hating on.

Come to may the 4th. We dropped kiddo off at school and I asked if she’d be willing to take an hour off of household chores, walk to a nearby wood, and take a few pictures of my new cosplay. Mostly for me, I don’t have socials.

The responses were, hurtful, at best.

“Why” “uhh, for how long” mostly the fear of being SEEN with someone in a costume.

Then I suggested that we pick up kiddo and I could wear the costume. Just silliness for the 6 yo.

The response was “I’d die”.

I have nothing I’m looking for here. But I needed to rant.

Happy Star Wars day for you fans. Because if you’re like me, no one else cares about your passion in your life.

Edit: yes. My wife is an amazing person, and a phenomenal mother. She elevates me in many many ways. This post is NOT about disparaging her.