u/Crearaven

Hi! I’m 28, single, and in the Illinois area. I’m open to meeting men or women and seeing where a genuine connection takes us.
I’ve been polyamorous before, and I’m pretty flexible about relationship structure for the right person. Ideally, I’d love to eventually be a primary partner to someone, but I’m not attached to a particular hierarchy if the relationship works well for both of us. I am still learning a lot of terminology so please be patient with me.
What matters most to me is honesty, communication, mutual respect, and actually making space for each other.
I’ll also be upfront that I’ve had some difficult experiences with long-distance relationships in the past, so I’m hesitant to pursue something that would primarily exist at a distance. I’m much more interested in building something where we can actually share time and space together. I’m open to seeing where things go, but local or realistically accessible is definitely a preference.
Personality-wise, I’m a curious, somewhat nerdy person who loves a good, honest conversation. I genuinely enjoy listening to people talk about the things they’re passionate about, and I’m very susceptible to getting dragged into random side tangents. There’s almost always music playing, I’m casually writing a book, and I love getting excited about fictional worlds and new shows.
I’m childfree and don’t want kids. I’m LGBTQ+ affirming. I’m looking for someone kind, communicative, emotionally aware, and capable of both deep conversations and completely ridiculous ones.
Some things I love:
Music being on basically all the time
Getting way too invested in random topics
Quietly spending time with someone without needing to constantly entertain each other
People who can teach me something I didn’t know
The occasional extremely niche obsession

I’m much more interested in building an actual connection than collecting messages. If we click, I’d love to see where it goes—whether that’s a friendship, dating, or eventually something deeper.
Tell me something you’re currently fascinated by. What’s a topic you could happily ramble about for way too long?

Hi everyone out there.
I got back from Neuro appointment. It was my first time with this doctor and it’ll be my last.
Little history I’ve had seizures since I was a baby, i have grand mals since i was an older teen this is nothing new to me.
This doctor accused me of Dr. hopping because my last three retired or quit, the last doctor I quit was in 2010’s.
He then proceeds to telling me that most people aren’t worried about myoclonics even though I had over 20 in a 24 hour span.
Then he jumps on me having pseudo seizures (pnes but he called them pseudo seizures), then dismisses the fact that I’m getting diagnosed with EDS because apparently too many people are getting diagnosed with that and I don’t really have it. Oh also, I don’t have PCOS because it’s not real.
He ends this wonderful appointment by telling me that he would like to switch me to a med that stabilizes my emotions better depending on my mri. Because he’s sure that I have BPD or depression or something that makes my mood swing. I proceed to tell him I like my emotions as they are and I have no mental illness he says, and I quote “ you would like your emotions more if they were stabilized, wouldn’t you” by this time i am signaling i would like to leave and he asks if i have ever been abused as a child and that i should know it’s more common for a female.
Tldr: i guess i went to a fucking shrink today instead of a seizure specialist. what a waste of a copay and my tears.

I stayed with a man who I had previous consensual relationships with but had cut it off but remained friends.
I was medically unwell (i was having seizures) and said no to his multiple attempts to him touching my hands, shoulders. As i walked by in the living room he slapped my ass and then for the next day proceeds to keep talking about me touching him or trying to touch me even just hand holding. I don’t know if i am having heightened emotions because of the seizures and i feel a little weird asking about this.